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Advice on building a wardrobe of femme clothing? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 13 hours ago by compostgoblin@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Hi y’all! Do you have any advice on how to start building a wardrobe of femme clothing?

I’m starting to feel braver and want to start wearing girl clothes out in public more. The problem is 1) I have next to no girl clothes, just the few affirming things I wear around the house, and 2) I am overwhelmed by the amount of options I have and don’t know where to start.

Historically, I’ve dressed more workwear (flannel, denim, leather) in the winter, and more normcore (solid color tees and chino shorts) in the summer.

I’m not sure how to translate those into feminine clothes, if I even want to. I really more so want to take the opportunity to find a more expressive style (I always disliked how few options men are given when it comes to fashion), but I still feel like I need a few kind of “core” outfits that I can easily mix and match, like a capsule wardrobe.

I also expect there to be an awkward phase as my body changes and I start to figure out my style, but I’d prefer to not make any glaring faux pas either.

Any advice is greatly appreciated 😊

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[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 13 hours ago (4 children)

Buy a little at a time, and nothing remotely expensive, especially if you plan on losing weight. Amazon is your friend here.

Look on pinterest and in real life for women wearing things you like. Then copy them! It's that easy, but it takes a while to find your own style. You'll have plenty of time as your body changes to explore.

Have fun!

[–] compostgoblin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks! Yeah, I’m definitely going to need to work slowly, since I am losing weight (10 down, 90 to go!). Buying a whole new wardrobe as I gained weight was a pain.

Are there any particular items that might go better with a larger body type, to help me look slimmer or make my silhouette look more feminine?

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Some things I found effective:

  • Hiding my gut was a priority, because that's a very masculine feature (not to say that women don't have fat there, but it tends not to be only there). Shape-adjusting underwear like girdles can help here but really it's just a case of shedding the weight.
  • Breaking up the straight-up-and-down side profile is huge. A-line skirts and dresses if you're brave, or tops that cinch in at the waist. Try to make it look like you have hips.
  • Layering! Women's fabrics are usually thinner, so try to wear a few things rather than just a T-shirt. Also combining tight and loose things works well.
  • High-waisted bottoms!
  • And unless you're hugely muscular, don't worry too much about showing off your shoulders.
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