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My first trans joy (europe.pub)
submitted 3 days ago by Una@europe.pub to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Hi! I'm not yet transitioning because transphobia and I'm scared, but I'm doing small steps and growing my hair and I got small bangs, by recommendation from trans women on social media, and this is first time I was able to look at myself and see androgynous /fem person and it makes me happy, unfortunately others don't see me such but I'm at the beginning of my self discovery. Honestly I feel happy, hope you are having great day ๐Ÿฉท๐Ÿฉท Honestly, what do y'all think about me, am I ugly? Will I look beautiful after transition?

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[โ€“] knightly@pawb.social 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You're already pretty, but you're going to be stunning after the first few months of hormone therapy.

How long do you want your hair?

[โ€“] Una@europe.pub 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Thank you, honestly idk maybe shoulders length idk yet I'll just experiment

[โ€“] knightly@pawb.social 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yeah! Figuring out what works for you is half the fun!

Waiting a couple of years while your hair grows is the not-fun half. XD

[โ€“] Una@europe.pub 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, why does it take so long? And it's great feeling when I look at my picture and smile for the first time <3

[โ€“] knightly@pawb.social 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

I know that was a rhetorical question, but it's actually kind of fascinating. Hairs are tubes of dead, fully-keratinized epilitheal cells, so the limiting factor for hair growing speed is the rate at which those specialized skin cells can be reproduced. In short, your hair only grows as fast as your skin. =D

Anyways, it's always awesome to see trans people smiling. I hope you get the Day-1 rush of gender euphoria when you start your hormone therapy like I did. ๐Ÿ˜บ

[โ€“] Una@europe.pub 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Thanks, just thinking about starting HRT (in a vacuum) makes me happy, but then I go back to earth and become scared because what if others see what to say to them and how to explain myself.

[โ€“] knightly@pawb.social 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I had the exact same fear, and I let it keep me from starting E for way too long, but it's turned out to be wholly unfounded so far.

I'm almost two years in and I can tell you that allocishet folks never notice things they aren't expecting to see. I can wear tight jeans and pad my bra out to C-cups, but unless I'm wearing a blouse and a skirt I won't even get second glances, much less questions. Heck, most furries don't realize it until I point at my tits. XD