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Is it too early for a (21F) proposal to her? (23F) (lemmy.ml)

submitted 5 days ago by wendyz@lemmy.ml to c/lesbians@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years. I want to surprise her by proposing to her and being all fancy for our hangout soon, but I don’t want to move too fast. 3 years should be fine, right??

Anyway, I’ll tell you how it goes!!

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[–] JakenVeina@lemm.ee 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

The only REAL criteria for getting married, thst isn't just personal social preference, are as follows:

Is there any kind of social imbalance of power? Like a boss/employee relationship, a really big age gap, an extended prior relationship where one party was a an adult, and the other wasn't, that kinda thing. Any of those is a big red flag. Definitely doesn't sound like the case here.
Have you talked about marriage, casually? Like, has the relationship evolved enough that the topic has just come up, and neither of you has been clear that you're not ready? Sounds like that's indeed the case here.

Like, the only "time threshold" that really matters is that #2 part, whether the relationship has matured to that point. Every relationsholip evolves at a different pace, in this regard.

In short.... (top-right panel) https://www.questionablecontent.net/comics/3738.png

[–] wendyz@lemmy.ml 2 points 4 days ago

Thank you!!! ❤️ I proposed earlier