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whenever i call myself disabled my parents r like "nooo don't say that ur doing so much to work on urself"
and i know thats prob more supportive than most parents r but, man, wish they'd accept reality that it doesn't matter how hard i work, im still disabled lmao
Denialism from others about your disability is the worst. It makes it seem like your struggles are not valid and sets an unrealistic expectation.
The thing I hate most is when you aren't allowed to be upset about your illness or disability, there is so much pressure put on you to be happy. Whenever I've been down about my situation medical staff and other people will say things like "Stop whingeing, there are people worse off than you," or show me news stories about ill/disabled people who are happy and grateful to be alive and say "Be more like them." It's selfish of them, they just want us to pretend to be happy so they don't have to deal with our emotions.
Thinking about the pain of others makes you fuckers feel better??
It's probably just to guilt us into shutting up.
yea, i honestly started feeling better about myself when i realized i cant hold myself to able-bodied standards. but no, im "limiting my potential" or whatever
Yeah, I get that now that I've been diagnosed when trying to talk about it with my mum. She used to just go to "well you've gotta be more organized and we all struggle with these things" which is one of the reasons that I've been very hesitant to look into it, and now she keeps saying "They've expanded the diagnosis lately" after diagnosis.
I know that it is her trying to be helpful in the first case, and in the latter case I think it is her trying to cope with not spotting any of my issues as I was the non-problem child that was very good at hiding my feelings/dissociating (she is an educated child psychologist, but she was studying for that while I was a teen). Still kind of sucks as I feel I cannot talk to her about it since it makes her very sad to hear how much I was hiding from her, which is ironically a major reason I didn't tell her anything in the first place.
omg basically the same on the non-problem child front
i wish i could tell her that her feelings of insecurity are her problem to deal with