Look, I was trying to come up with some good hearted explanation for men's behavior (something about not being able to put themselves into womens shoes) because I didn't want to get downvoted to shit again, but frankly I don't care anymore.

Because it mostly comes down to women being fucking horrible communicators and having chronic indecisiveness.

Figure your shit out.

[–] lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 14 minutes ago

women being fucking horrible communicators

That goes for society in general & we can't pin that on women. Look at autists try to navigate social situations to observe how complicated neurotypicals make something that could be straightforward. Simple, clear directness often takes boldness & isn't typically rewarded. Learning not to give a fuck takes effort.

Women & people in general don't know who they're dealing with & don't owe them much of anything.

[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

? I'm a Dominatrix, my experience of women and as a woman is that they are excellent communicators (women are actually famously good communicators) and not indecisive (unless you're trying to be pushy and force them into something they dislike?). Both men and women who are new to exploring their sexuality will not know what they like, but that's just part of being new to something.

I've gone to sex clubs, try it some time. They usually have strict consent rules and staff to help deal with conflicts. Saying No is not usually an issue there, because there's rules in place for how to approach women and what you must do when they say no.

If a woman isn't interested in discussing sex with men she doesn't like, she doesn't have to. It's important to have and express boundaries - that's a key part of healthy sex. That includes a boundary of not talking about sex with men she doesn't want to.