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One Woman in the Justice League

Just one woman, maybe two, in a team or group of men.

Also watch Jimmy Kimmel's "Muscle Man' superhero skit - "I'm the girly one"

The Avengers:

In Marvel Comics:

"Labeled "Earth's Mightiest Heroes," the original Avengers consisted of Iron Man, Ant-Man, Hulk, Thor and the Wasp. Captain America was discovered trapped in ice in The Avengers issue #4, and joined the group after they revived him."

5 / 6 original members are male. Only one is female.

Modern films (MCU):

The original 6 Avengers were Iron Man, Captain America, Thor, Hulk, Hawkeye, and Black Widow.

Again, 5 / 6 original members are male. Only one is female.

Justice League

In DC comics:

"The Justice League originally consisted of Superman, Batman, Wonder Woman, Flash, Green Lantern, Martian Manhunter, and Aquaman"

6 / 7 original members are male. Only one is female.

In modern films (DCEU):

The members were/are Superman, Batman, Wonder Woman, Aquaman, Flash, Cyborg. (+ introducing Martian Manhunter (in Zack Snyder's Justice League director's cut))

5 / 6 main members in both versions of the Justice League film are male, with appearances by a 7th member in the director's cut who is also male. Only one member is female.

The Umbrella Academy (comics and show)

7 members:

  1. Luther (Number One / Spaceboy)
  2. Diego (Number Two / The Kraken)
  3. Allison (Number Three / The Rumor)
  4. Klaus (Number Four / The SΓ©ance)
  5. Five (Number Five / The Boy)
  6. Ben (Number Six / The Horror)
  7. Vanya (Number Seven / The White Violin) Later becomes known as Viktor and nonbinary in the television adaptation after Elliot Page's transition but that's not really relevant to this.

Here, 5 / 7 original members are male. Only two are female. Only slightly better than the other more famous superhero teams, and they had to add another member (compared to Avengers' 6 members) to improve the ratio (maybe executives still demanded to have 5 males).

Now let's look at some sitcoms and other stories.

It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia:

4 males, and 1 female slightly less prominent character who is abused constantly. The show claims to be politically aware and satirical but gets away with a lot of misogynistic comedy, tbh, that I'm willing to bet a lot of people are finding funny for the wrong reasons.

Community:

Jeff, Britta, Abed, Troy, Annie, Pierce, Shirley. This one is a little better, 3/7 are female. Notice it's always more males though, they never let it become more than 50% female, or else then it's a "chick flick" or a "female team up" or "gender flipped" story. And of course the main character, and the leading few characters, are almost always male or mostly male.

Stranger Things:

Main original group of kids consisted of: Mike, Will, Dustin, Lucas, and El (Eleven). 1 original female member, who is comparable to an alien and even plays the role of E.T. in direct homage. When they added Max, I saw people complaining that although they liked her, there should be only one female member. 🀦

Why is it 'iconic' to have only one female in a group of males? Does that just mean it's the tradition, the way it's always been? Can't we change that? Is it so that all the men can have a chance with the one girl, or so the males can always dominate the discussion with their use of force and manliness? Or so that whenever the team saves the day, it's mostly a bunch of men doing it, but with 'a little help' from a female/a few females (at most), too!

It's so fucked up and disgusting to me I've realised. And men don't seem to care. I'm a male and this is really disturbing to me now that I've woken up to it. How do women feel about this? Am I overreacting?

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[–] absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 79 points 3 days ago (7 children)

An interesting counter point to this.

Kids movies, I'm a dad, I only have boys. Trying to find new movies that have good male parts is challenging. There are plenty of "girl empowerment" movies, but ones with good role models for boys are few and far between.

Everything is based around violence. Like really, is that all boys are good for?

[–] rowanthorpe@lemmy.ml 17 points 3 days ago (1 children)

...and not just movies. My partner and I steadfastly try to do all "interacting with kid's school, extracurricular and social groups" stuff 50/50. We always strive to go to (and host) such important events together. We always indicate we should both be added to mailing lists, and give both our phone numbers as contacts, etc, etc. However, much (sometimes most) of the time people only ever call her about kids playdates, medical professionals default to discussing his issues with her exclusively even though I am sitting next to her and commenting too, when there is a parents' chat/mail group for his classes or other activities usually she gets added and then has to help me muscle my way in to the group (and the groups are often all women). Once at a preschool party a parent saw me interact with my kid, came and asked me to point out his mother, then went to her to invite our kid to a birthday party. It's never-ending for a father who strives to be a "caring father", and not just an infantile "toxically masculine, one-dimensional, emotionally stunted clichΓ©" in terms of "role model". It is exhausting for both her and me, but is also extremely demoralising for me because trying to be what you believe to be the right kind of role-model is one of the most important yet virtually undocumented parts of parenting, and even more demoralising because it still happens even after I hugely reduced my external workload in order to be the primary "stay at home" parent. One small positive step is that the country we live in introduced "paternity leave at child-birth" legal requirements (much smaller than for maternity leave though, and only introduced after my kid was born [sigh]). In popular culture it has become a trope that women suffer endlessly trying to play the role of both parents to compensate for idiotic (or selfish prick) fathers, but it glosses over the fact that a man who actively tries to "be the change" (and any woman who tries to facilitate that change in solidarity) are so often tripped up at every step by this pervasive (and often subconscious) intellectual and emotional inflexibility. One other small positive is that I occasionally find another father who feels the same way (and who is often just as frustrated and burned out by the state of things) ...sometimes - just one or two. Having previously lived in many countries/continents I also know that the country I live in is far from the worst offender for this, which makes it even more pathetic globally.

Everything is based around violence. Like really, is that all boys are good for?

Oh yeah, you are so right. It feels at times like - when I'm not teaching him to play football (violently), and not egging him on to emulate (violent) action figures, and not buying him fake guns to play with (violently), and not telling him to "man up" instead of taking time to understand his feelings, etc - there seems to be a degree of subliminal judgmentalism directed at me for not "sticking to the job description". It seems many people will prefer to see the world burn in preference to accepting someone disregarding parts of the "normality" rulebook based on rational introspection, including those who would never admit it out loud, and even some who haven't yet consciously realised they are standing on that side of history - perhaps because it holds up a mirror to them not doing so (out of fear?, laziness?, bitterness-fueled pulling-up the ladder?).

[–] absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Just for a specific example. Bluey vs Paw Patrol. Both HUGE kids shows, about dog-based characters.

In Bluey all of the important characters except Bandit are female. The stories are awesome, they revolve around family, caring and over coming challenges. They are almost never violent, the stories are rich and interesting and somewhat entertaining even for an adult watching for the infinity+1th time.

In Paw Patrol; all the important characters are male except Mayor Goodway and Skye. The stories are repetitive and boring, they revolve around working together, being heroic and solving problems. They are regularly violent, and as the show has progressed it has gotten stupid with massive power creep and a group of antagonists. Paw Patrol just kinda sucks.

In Bluey often Bandit is used for comic relief; none of the female characters are. In Paw Patrol, the comic relief is handled by Mayor Humdinger who is often the antagonist, Mayor Goodway is often scatterbrained but rarely is the comic punching bag.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

This is valid but I want to non-judgmentally laugh at the concept of power creep in Paw Patrol

[–] lunarul@lemmy.world 21 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Same for kids books. It's great for my daughter, but it's hard to find good movies and books for her younger brother.

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

First, I'm confused as to why you'd need to segregate books and film by gender, these all have either a male or non-gendered lead: Captain Underpants, Nate the Great, Hal The 3rd Class Hero, The Hobbit, The Lord of The Rings, Treasure Island, Danny the Champion of the World, The Outsiders, The Adventures of Robin Hood, Percy Jackson (all 40 billion of the series), The Giving Tree, Charlie and The Chocolate Factory, Bridge to Terabithia, James and the Giant Peach, Holes (series), Where The Wild Things Are, The Heroes of Olympus (more Percy Jackson I think), Ender's Game, Winnie The Pooh, Narnia (series), The Wind In The Willows, The Indian in the Cupboard, Fantastic Mr. Fox, The Neverending Story, I Am Every Good Thing, Don't Hug Doug (He Doesn't Like it), King Arthur's Very Great Grandson, A Wizard of Earthsea, The Wild Robot (series), Stuart Little, Mr. Popper's Penguins, George's Marvellous Medicine, Lord of The Flies, Calvin and Hobbes (series), The Dangerous Book for Boys, The American Boys Handy Book.

(You didn't specify age, so I tried to add our family suggestions for about 4-12. Once he's older, depending on your thoughts on the language, we also have a lot of suggestions for Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn)

[–] lunarul@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

We don't need to, but I noticed at one point that he's mostly seeing female leads. We read a bunch of the books in your list, many others we avoided because they're no longer in line with current times (and they're not old enough to understand the historical context), and a bunch of them are not for their age yet.

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 17 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I appreciate what you're saying, however:

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Women are, regardless of any other stat, still under-represented. 2000-2009 is depressing.

[–] Wrufieotnak@feddit.org 19 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Yes, it's not a counter point but rather an also important parallel discussion. We need to have higher standards for male role models, or we will continue to have incels fill the space.

[–] absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I suppose the counter point is actually.

Why are there so many female leads in kid focused movies and so few female leads in adult focused movies.

What changes? Why do we lose out on these stories?

[–] Wrufieotnak@feddit.org 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

That does not seem to be what research shows, but rather your personal experience:

For animated children movies, I found that 80 % male leads are reported for 1990-2020. Source

Couldn't find data for children movies in general.

And I found for children books that there is still a slight male overrepresentation on average but in general it being around 50 %for the last few years. Source, search for "Fig. 2"

[–] absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 3 points 3 days ago

Yes. It is my experience.

I am looking at the last 9 years (my oldest is 9); I agree, when I was a kid in the 80's, most movies were male focused.

If we restrict the dataset to big popular kids movies in the last decade; it is either a female empowerment movie or a movie based around violence.

As for kids books, in Harry Potter (my oldest boys favorite books) his favorite character is Hermione. Because she is brave, smart and gets shit done; Harry is brave and good at sports...

Even when the stories are male focused, the characters are still two dimensional.

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Yes, it’s not a counter point but rather an also important parallel discussion. We need to have higher standards for male role models, or we will continue to have incels fill the space.

I feel like it's awfully interesting though that we have 'parallel discussions' whenever someone says "hey this specific thing sucks for women." The original question posited here was:

Why do males complain about female-led stories or too many female characters when the majority are still dominated by males?

The question is why do men complain about female leads, which they do, when the majority of leads are still male, which they are. The answer to that isn't "we need better male role models in movies" (though it would obviously help as well) as it's dodging the original question.

[–] rowanthorpe@lemmy.ml 6 points 3 days ago

I understand your point and to avoid two apparently valid points talking past each other I suggest these both look like cases of suffering under the general "stay in your lane" mentality. In that context the "counterpoint" you are replying to seems to support the initial point rather than conflict with it. To clarify, that context is the very outdated mentality of "Women 'should' raise the kids and keep the family healthy, while men 'should' go out and do society-stuff. Girls 'should be' raised to handle interpersonal challenges and ignore other stuff, while boys 'should be' raised to ignore interpersonal challenges and handle other stuff".

[–] Wrufieotnak@feddit.org 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I feel like it's awfully interesting though that we have 'parallel discussions' whenever someone says "hey this specific thing sucks for women." [...] The answer to that isn't "we need better male role models in movies" (though it would obviously help as well) as it's dodging the original question.

Yes, perfectly agree with you! I think both are important points and needed to tackle the issue of patriarchy, because if we don't teach boys to be better, they never will be and grow up to ask "but what about me?" when they read about feministic topics.

And I fully agree, the way the op posted it with "counter point" already send the discussion in the wrong way.

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (2 children)

And I fully agree, the way the op posted it with β€œcounter point” already send the discussion in the wrong way.

I think the 'discussion' failed the moment someone said "how come men are angry at women doing 'x'" and the entire fucking thread is full of men talking about men.

Like I'm not surprised, I'm just mildly amused I'm yet again changing accounts for awhile while my inbox fills with angry men shouting messages at me I never read. Every. Single. Time. A thread about an experience a woman has with men being shit in it is always filled with comments from men "nuh uh, whatabout...!" in response.

Every. Time. It's so fucking embarrassing I wish I could literally just not be my gender for awhile. We've been in power for almost the entirety of humanity but oh my God a woman made a comment about how shitty men are to them, so let's constantly make absolute ironic assholes of ourselves.

Peace out, men, you continue the trend of making us all look like whiny babies who can't handle not being talked about, and not being The Normal.

[–] Wrufieotnak@feddit.org 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

See it more positive, don't look at the amount of comments, but rather at the votes:

the 2 highest main comments and most of the high voted main comments are agreeing with the main gist of the post. That there are then people discussing that is a different thing, but a majority of the people watching this post agree that there is a problem and recognize it.

People who feel attacked by it are naturally more interested in answering and sending their own viewpoint out into the ether. But most votes are not agreeing with them. So majority of those here in this post are on the right trajectory, but of course still have to do the walking towards that direction.

[–] Murple_27@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It’s so fucking embarrassing I wish I could literally just not be my gender for awhile.

You should probably delve that particular line of thought more deeply, tbh.

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

You should probably delve that particular line of thought more deeply, tbh.

I know you meant this flippantly but I came out as nonbinary last year; having (especially white) men act like entitled toddlers online was a helpful push into embracing more femininity.

[–] absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 5 points 3 days ago

No problem with the stats.

But I'm really interested in movies aimed at the under 10yo segment

[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Branch out of American media; European and Asian media have much less tolerance for on-screen hardcore violence. American media freaks out over a nipple in children's media, but war and graphic fighting are A-OK!

[–] absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 4 points 3 days ago

Totally.

I love Shaun the Sheep.

[–] Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Anime is great if you want you kids to think they are supposed to surrounded by a harem of women so possessive of their crush that they can't function for themselves without that crush their site reason for existing, more often than not

[–] i_am_not_a_robot@feddit.uk 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Why can't a girl be a good role model for a boy?

(I'm not completely disagreeing with you btw - if all the boy leads are "stereotypical boy" then it's just perpetrating the problem)

[–] absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 17 points 3 days ago

For the same reason we want diverse casts in media.

Kids learn by putting themselves into the story. I don't want to see only girls kicking arse and boys being relegated into two dimensional villains or stupid sidekicks.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

I recommend Onward, especially if they're a little older enough to really resonate with the ending