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well for one, there isn't inherent value to number going up, it doesn't determine your worth, but secondly yeah I mean I'd say chances are probably pretty high of it goin up, especially if you are looking!
for me the low number is from a compete lack of opportunity and a symptom of horrible social problems.
having the option would require my life to have vastly improved, which is what i want and have no delusions or expectations of happening,
yeah, same here @ everything you said.
For me, it's living at home + no job + no car. Also being really shy due to trauma, and living in a lame place. idk about you.
This thread actually sucks, because the only outcome is it makes people feel like they are not "meeting expectations". I am way below this number but not worried about it in the slightest. The number itself is meaningless. "Catching up" seems like it's an expectation or obligation, when really everyone does relationships differently. Please don't feel like you need to reach this number, or even try. But if you do want a sexual partner, that's totally fine too! Just don't feel like you are a failure for not having more partners.
well I've been looking my whole adult life, and still no dice. At this point I have to conclude I'm too broken for anyone to be interested in me, even if only for a FWB or fling or whatever.