Fwiw (I sure hope this is not an empty platitude), as a trans woman who'd love to be able to feel safe outside of cities in blue states, who very much knows and experienced that it's not free:

You're absolutely right.

I read this back early 2016, been reeling from it ever since: https://morecrows.wordpress.com/2016/05/10/unnecessariat/

We have been divided by the american mythos of "pinko city slicker vs rugged indvidualist rednecks" and the truth is it's all so the boss can take the whole plate of cookies, while scapegoating your brown/queer/whatever co-worker "He's gonna eat your cookie"

I refuse, at least for my inner child anyway, to surrender the love I have for my fellow common person, regardless of where you're from. Sweeping generalization.

There's lots of blame to go around. Big Pharma, Politicians, the way in which the midwest and south's entire economies that were always built on the idea of very high capital using extractive methods to get resources out of the land either cotton or mining or oil or water or agri business, those economies always depend on a few people with a lot of money, and then a whole bunch of people who are poor.

I blame them, not you. I see you. We are not alone. There has got to be a better way.