I'm with you 100% up to the "little recourse," I think there's more options now than there have ever been. Open source (including linux and self hosting) are about the only tech-future things I'm genuinely excited about.

There's still a learning curve and progress to be made, for sure. However, anecdotally, I've seen programming and hosting become vastly more accessible in the last 15 years. Also, not everyone needs to self host, people just need to know someone who is willing and able to set them up.

Not saying it's a guarantee, but it's a possible way out, at least. And being here on lemmy, reading and writing about these issues is a good sign there's movement in the right direction.