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5'3 and didn't have many issues dating or finding people interested in me but I mostly dated lefty queers which may play a part. The only thing that negatively effected dating for me was tinder and the tinderisation of every online dating platform where i went from a few dates a month to nothing for years. The algo specifically refused to show me any lefty queers it was almost like they were erased from earth entirely.
However the one rly fukin annoying thing for me about being short is people really try to make it your problem and give you an insecurity about it. I've had people just outright tell me I'm too short and won't date me but i didn't ask them they just felt this internal need to put me down for some reason. I've had countless colleagues and customers have serious difficulties not mentioning it. Getting treated like a child when I'm a working adult etc etc. This isn't unique to being short however a lot of people really just can't help but body shame and have to tell others they don't personally want to fuck you like anyone should even care. Also my own mum would go on about it all the time saying she was really worried about having a short kid and for some reason she felt incredible disgust towards short men in general and would always tell me this idk why. Had a friend at school who was small like me and his mum somehow got ahold of growth hormones to give him? The result was he ended up looking about 40 at 18.
I've always maintained that the kind of person who ONLY cares about height is probably not someone I'd like anyway. Plus being smol and cute is fun regardless of what society says and I laugh when tall people struggle to fit on public transport. My plane seat? A throne.
Reminds me of the chick I matched with who I asked out for a date after a nice conversation and she responded with "Sorry, I only date 6'2''" and when I responded with "then why did you swipe right on me?" she unmatched me. Weird brainworms.
Tbh I think its a reaction to men policing womens bodies to then try and do the inverse but thats just a vibes based analysis. My perspective is all body shaming should stop and preferences are perfectly fine to have but there's no real need to broadcast what they are.
Tinder is the material reason why incels became an identity when they did. Incels will spout some inhuman theory which sounds insane until you realize they're trying to rationalize how Tinder works.
Tinder is a slot machine app for sex and it does extreme harm mental harm to society.
I genuinely think it was when I first used Tinder that my mental health deteriorated ten fold.