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This is probably NSFW so... warning(?)
I was going to reserve dinner at a place for our 7th anniversary of our marriage. My phone ran out of battery, so she told me to use hers.
While I was using it she received a message saying "tomorrow again? ๐". Curiosity killed me, I opened the message because, as far as I knew, she stayed home while I was working the day before.
To my surprise, the guy that texted her sent her a video of her on all fours with 2 men cuming on her. Needless to say, there was no 7th anniversary dinner. This was also years ago so I got over it.
I could have said "she cheated on me" and leave it at that but I feel like the whole story is spicier.
Whoa.
I'm very sorry, but also just whoa.
The lengths to which some people go to not communicate their desires to their significant other
Exactly. I'd have no problem if my wife wants to partake in a little extra-marital cum play. Just please, tell me.
That's what I said to her... Hell, it would have been a blessing for me if she was doing things with other people sometimes.
I was feeling horrible for her because I have a terrible case of arthritis and I can't do stuff like a normal person, sometimes I couldn't even move for weeks or spend time at the hospital, so sex was almost impossible. We were doing it once every 4 months, maybe more.
The first thing I told her was "Look, if you're gonna do something with someone else, at least let me know first, I can understand due to the conditions so there's no problem if you really need it, just please tell me first".
First thing she did was not tell me, and that is what messed me up, the stupid lie.
Something similar happened to me with my first wife .. I read an email meant for her that was quite descriptive, not to mention x rated, and it left me pretty devastated. I was in a very dark place after that. But now, many years later, I'm very happily married to a partner who is perfect for me in every way. My advice to everyone who goes through this is hang in there, it hurts like hell but things will get better and one day you'll look back and realize it was better you found out and got out when you did.
There were zero signs she was cheating?
I kind of thought she was a bit distant, but not cheating, but at that time I was dealing with a terrible case of arthritis at that time, so between going to the hospital and spending days, sometimes weeks in bed without being able to move I was not really thinking about it.