Due to my "privacy consciousness" (yes, you could call it digital paranoia, but that sounds as if i were ill and not just conscious about how data trade works in the age of total surveillance) dating apps are no options - the compromise i'm living with is owning, using and carrying a phine with me but without any non-free or known malicious (tracking, data-mining, spying, etc) software.

Any advice on how to get to know interesting people? How did you get to know your partners or acquantances? Did you just give in and opt for one or another dating platform?

This isn't a race thing, more of a cultural thing.

I met a girl on Hinge, she is from China but studies in my city in the UK. We both had a good time, it was a simple coffee and walk date, I walked her home after and we agree'd we would see each other again next week.

What I don't know is, how will the differences between our cultures affect dating? I don't want to cross any boundaries I shouldn't and most of all I don't want to offend her. I plan on talking to her about these things if we go on to have more than 3 or 4 dates, but in the mean time, is there anything I should know?

I really enjoyed the company of this girl, and I can see myself having something special with her but I'm also being cautiously optimistic, it has only been 1 date after all.

Asking a girl out at my workplace.

Hey family! Sooooo. First time posting here, not sure what to include - I’ll try my best.

I’m a vendor that shows up at different locations of work. Then later while I was busy, she said “hey how’s your day going?” And I didn’t hear her and she walked in front of my line of sight to get my attention and ask me again. we were talking after and I mentioned the idea of coffee. She asked “why” and chuckled.

Again later, I told her the next location of work I would be at sometimes I don’t like working there. She said “oh yeah, I go there sometimes.” I said “maybe I’ll see you then!” And she said yeah maybe you will.

Fast forward a week later she shows up with her female friend, and tried chatting but I was busy.

I’m back at her location of work and a few friends recommend different things. I told them “I don’t think she’s interested” And they were like are you crazy?! She brought a friend as a second opinion.

One friend recommended I just go up to her and chat and then say “hey why don’t I text you my number in case you wanna grab coffee outside of work” Another said that might be too direct. She might be nervous cuz she does like me but is intimidated, she just to just be romantic and leave a piece of paper in the shape of a heart with my number and name.

What do yall think?

Edit: I don’t personally think she’s “the one” I don’t like pressuring things that are uncertain. I just want to start practicing

Can anyone recommend me some good platforms for dating. I have little to no experience with girls and a hard time getting to know new people. Tinder and the likes really scare me when I see very social and adult looking people my age there.

Yeah, I'm a programmer and I've got the itch to create one. DEAL with it! 😝

That said, open to suggestions...I realize that most dating apps have--shall we say--less than desirable people on it, but I'm concerned more about the way the platform operates.

For me, I think the dating app world is a hodgepodge of garbage. I've been on a lot of the common ones (and I'm willing to pay for one), But most of them are strictly an app--no web interface, and fully closed source and a privacy nightmare...or online but they block you if you even think about using a VPN (because obviously only criminals use VPNs).

So from a technical standpoint REST-based dating apps are best, because it can start on the web (and remain on the web), then a smartphone app could be built on top of it. Then again, my aim isn't to digitally violate my users, so I've probably lost that game. 🤣

So, what about you folks? What would your ideal dating app look like?

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So I'm super awkward, and anxious! (ADHD Autisic) And I'm really hoping I could get some help finding a casual way to ask someone out to a concert or dinner without creating the assumption that I'm paying for both tickets/meals.

Any ideas other then just bluntly asking to go Dutch?

You cant afford paying half rent? You cant afford going to eat out together, to go on trips or to buy gifts? Do you know that you can only keep them company, give them your love and emotions, but you know that doesnt set you apart from the herd?

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Surprising result: The most attractive male profiles get more matches than the most attractive female profiles.

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This is probably just my ADHD talking and I know people only do it because they wanna be thorough. But there's just this thing that irks me.

So you're watching a YouTube video and some important person comes up. Like a scientist that discovered something. The presented tells us their birthday, because it may be important in relation to their discovery.

But why do I need to hear the whole date? Isn't year enough, or month at most? Especially if the presenter says the date slowly, with reverence, I almost tune out by the time the year comes up, or I try to remember the whole date and fail anyway.

Just tell us the actual important part of the date, please. Or don't even mention it if it's not relevant.

Winter sucks anyway.

I will not be accepting criticism.

Is it for personal ads? Talking about dating? Dating advice?

Eta: I love you all. You're brilliant.