I understand that you feel this way, but do you have a single shred of evidence for your claims? From my perspective, you are indistinguishable from a transphobic bigot – right down to the slurs.
But I get where you're coming from. You've suffered a lot to get where you are, and then you see these other people who don't suffer the way you did and do, who are claiming those labels you fought so hard for.
But since when is being trans about suffering?
You think it's so easy? Those people you're mocking and trying to exclude from trans spaces aren't exactly immune from such treatment in cis spaces. Attitudes like yours, though in the minority, are common enough to make many trans spaces unwelcoming, or even unsafe.
So where should they go?
You say they don't realise "how difficult and painful it is to really actually be trans", but that's exactly the same as saying *you* don't realise that about womanhood.
End the cycle. Please.