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I hear you. The bigger issue is that companies are now giving technical interviews that previously would be a 2 week long in-house project, but now demand "proficient candidates" complete within 3-4 hours. They compromise by saying, "you can use any chatbot you want!"

My interpretation is that the market wants people to know enough about what they're doing to both build AND fix entire projects with chatbots. That said, many organizations are only selecting for candidates who do the former quickly...

Are you able to speak with a therapist? Do those big feelings seem to appear randomly or due to consistent behavioral triggers?

Do you have any specific trauma from family or bullies? If so, you should look into a "trauma -informed" therapist.

Note: If this is your first time meeting with a therapist, know that it's a match-making process. Before jumping into your personal history, determine if you and the therapist can communicate well, and you feel comfortable to communicate.

A good therapist will likely not tell you, "here's what's wrong with you. Go sort it out." The goal will be to understand how your brain and body respond to your environment. It's a learning process.

Pick something in your daily life that you want to make more convenient. Start searching for tutorials, necessary hardware, and related coding.

Even something simple like, "I wish I didn't have to turn on my fan because it's in the corner." Boom: look into building a motion sensor that runs a fan, and maybe it connects via a USB port for power.

Convince yourself it doesn't need to perfect. It just needs to create a convenience that happens to teach you something.

I think many behaviors are being conflated here: externalizing behavior vs internalizing behavior. People may react to the post with a notable experience from one of those.

E.g., if someone was recently chewed out by a Chad or Karen because some unknown events activated their externalizing survival strategies, it's more difficult to feel compassion for them -- and easier to dislike the post. OTOH, there can be people who self isolate and withhold their preferences to avoid activating events, because they tend to internalize negative emotions.

I don't think the post is encouraging us to enable bad behavior, but reflect on others' experiences. I can feel compassion for people in my life who have been hurtful to me, but simultaneously not want to interact with them to protect myself.

Check out Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

In short, some family members are just assholes. It's up to you to determine your level of involvement in their lives (and vice versa). You can choose any level you wish, but observe which levels benefit you. The levels that benefit your family my be hurtful to you.

Best of luck