Reminds me of the UK's Government Digital Services, who want to digitise government processes but also have a responsibility to keep that service as accessible and streamlined as possible, so that even a homeless person using a £10 phone on a 2G data service still has an acceptable experience.
An example. Here they painstakingly remove JQuery (most modern frameworks are way too big) from the site and shave 32Kb off the site size.
I'm inclined to agree. Main issue for me is that it's not a sustainable practice and you're possibly making this very problem more difficult for the next generation.
Particularly if you plan to have kids, I think it's nice to have one name. It just doesn't have to be a man's specifically. Name mashups are fun, or simply reversing gender stereotypes. I once went to a wedding where the couple flipped a coin to decide whose name they'd take forward and it was possibly the most exciting part of the day.