What a way to enjoy Halloween! ๐
In that case, I aim to live forever
Oh nice! I heard that London has a few gay saunas, and from what I've heard there seems to be a fair bit of action!
It sounds like you had some good experiences, which thank goodness for that. Hopefully it was nothing but good experiences!
Someone had an amazing time!
Me, not too much. Still building furniture in my house. Unless building furniture is naughty fun then wow yeah Iโve been having all the fun ๐
Apologies all!
Nothing naughty from me - I've been in the process of moving into a recently bought house here in the UK, so I've been moving some bits and pieces as well as building furniture. It's also the reason why I've been so silent.
So glad @dazedandconfused picked up the pace and made a thread! It's been wonderful reading all your adventures!
EDIT: changed wording. I clearly need more coffee.
Hey, I remember you from my thread!
So, I'll lay out my life story:
- I'm also from the UK
- I was quite heavily teased/bullied by girls pretending to flirt only to laugh when I seem to recirpocate in secondary school
- Sixth form was an absolute no-go for whatever reason, had very little luck
- University I actually had a girl who was heavily flirting with me. However, I literally missed every single cue. I only realised she was flirting with me 5 years later
- I tried asking a friend out on a date - multiple times. She said no every single time and while now we are "okay" the friendship just isn't the same as it was before
- I tried to ask a girl out on a date at work. That ended up terribly and nearly had every single woman on that floor flat-out ignoring me. Because I had social anxiety at the time and I didn't understand social boundaries, I asked her out for a date another two times - the second time I actually wanted to ask if we were friends, but I didn't understand the implication of asking a girl out on a date. The third time was because I made the correlation that asking her out for a date would get her to go away and leave me alone. At the time I was deeply hurt from being ignored so aggressively and then she would just randomly talk to me as if nothing had happened.
- After those series of events, I twigged that I really need to get my shit together and start working on myself. I tried to look at all my insecurities, and address/resolve the ones I could fix while being kinder on myself for the things about myself I wasn't happy about
- I did online dating. SO. Many. Online. Dates. All of my early dates from my late twenties were absolutely terrible and I legitimately bought nothing to the table due to my lack of self confidence. Never got kissed. Never had sex.
- Eventually I would be a bit happier with myself, but I was sexually frustrated. As ashamed as I am to admit, I would upfront ask girls who I was dating if we could have sex, even if we had one (or none!) dates. I lost a lot of dates that way, and I still had my virginity.
- At the age of 31, I went to a super cheap escort and I honestly regret that escort. She looked nothing like her photo, and we wound up having sex for 15 minutes despite me paying for a full hour.
- The sex was nice but the actual experience left me thinking I was going to have my organs harvested in this dingy creepy room
- About 6 months later I found another escort. She looked exactly like her profile photo. Only problem was that as we talked, it was incredibly clear she was effectively being trafficked. I felt like throwing up on the spot and I wanted to give up sex, let alone seeking escorts.
- About a year or so (I think I was 33/34), I found an independent British escort. This escort wound up being the one I would frequently hook up frequently.
- I've been on dates since I met the British escort - one was an absolute dud, one despite being very nice wasn't interested, and another straight up snogged me. Never in my life did I think I would ever be snogged like that. She then said she was still missing her ex-husband, but we still remain friends to this day.
- I'm currently living with my parents as a 34 year old, but that is changing suuuuper sooooon :D
So now you know my dating/romantic life story:
- Escort for me did help relieve sexual frustration, but it at times made me feel helplessly desperate for a deeper connection. Seeking escorts for a romantic relationship is a bit like drinking salt water - you think you're being hydrated, but you're just being dehydrated. However, for mindless sex, a good independent escort is fantastic, as well as them being great to talk stuff through (they know and understand men don't have a lot of avenues to talk about their frustration, and honestly good escorts want to see you succeed)
- I would say the big thing to do is work out your insecurities and tackle them. Once you feel like you've done that, try to make more friends with women that, in your head, you know aren't sexual relationships. Not only will this boost your confidence, sometimes these women will want to hook you up with their friend if they think you are the bees knees
- You ultimately need to work on your confidence - from the mental to the physical. It doesn't happen overnight. I started when I was 26/27 and I'm 34 years now. I still consider it a work in progress.
- Do try to understand that dating is about finding your particular brand of weirdo. A lot of media try to teach men that they need to be sexual prowesses and have hundreds of women etc etc - don't believe the BS. You just need to find the right one for you. If a date didn't want to continue things further, they're doing you a favour. Eventually you'll be confident in your own needs and wants to effectively turn down women too.
- Confidence is key, and the key to confidence is knowing that she is just as nervous as you are. However you approach the situation, try to make sure that she feels comfortable with you.
I can't think of anything else, but I've been in your situation and I'm telling you it does get better, with or without escorting. I'm rooting for you mate!
Why not both?
If I was giving someone head and a river of their future children came oozing out of my nose and mouth, then yeah I would probably need some time to process that shit too.
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Nothing super naughty, but over the new years I got chatting to this girl at work who:
So I'm thinking to myself "yeah she likes me". I'm calling her cute and complimenting her, she is receptive, calling me cute etc.
During a conversation I'm talking about medical issues I have with travelling across the country, and she is asking me about whether I could travel etc. I basically ask if she's asking me to travel to hers (which I would kindly point out why I can't do that at least if she said yes) and she says this:
"I'm already in a relationship, so I'm not interested in you that way (:"
So I'm like "oh well, blew it"
After a few days of not really talking (I backed off out of respect) we are back taking like we did before.
I think she likes me in some capacity, but not romantically or sexually. Shame, because she's hot AF.
Still, I got a chatty new friend!