deviantfemboi

Hey! I wanted to weigh in about this because I did experience what others might call "increased attraction to men". I was already dabbling and at least bi, but hetero romantic. always was with women but this change deliberately coincided with me trying out men and being more comfortable with being pansexual. I'm still with my wife, find her even more attractive because she still loves me and supports me! but i do enjoy men a lot more now too, but i think that was always there and i was repressing it to fit social expectations. that changed with HRT because i was subverting multiple expectations at the same time, like i gave up trying to mask.

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It's great that you get to discuss it! Don't hold anxiety because of some emotions he has that you cannot control. It's also possible for it to get worse, so move forward with people that are happy with you. Spend your time and effort almost entirely on the people that you know care. He will come around on his own time; or not. It speaks volumes to what he cares about in the relationship with you if that essential part of you is nonexistent to him. I'm going through something similar, and I think a lot of trans folx do.

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I think about it like that too, which led to a poly situation. And I just don't find many cis men that I'm interested in. They are all bi/pan.

I have a wife, who is a bottom we are "anchors" for each other. I would recommend finding an anchor, even if you both have to take turns using hands or toys.... as you said you only really emotionally connect with feminine folks, maybe you can find another person that feels the same way, they are plentiful imo.

We have a BF who tops women and not me :( I do get his hands and not much else :) but he is a lovely person that like cuddles me a bunch and kisses, literally every other thing romantically and helps me garden and stuff.

I have a solo partner to satisfy mostly sexual needs and that's all they really want too. That's my FWB, but we are still pretty new to each other.

Toys exist, someone has to do the fun parts for the other person. I'm certain you can get exactly what you want if you put yourself out there and also work on yourself. Just keep grinding ;) and it'll happen. Being near a city or going to events in a city really helps, I would suggest a slosh personally.

Love, deviantfemboi (31 nb all)

Hey OP! I transitioned later in life, early 30s and people only really noticed after about 1 year. I never changed my pronouns at work and have never mentioned it or confirmed/denied anything. You don't owe people any explanation. You do owe yourself this, if it's what you really want. Do not let your "career" stop you from being who you want to be for years, that's just my conclusion. I'm gonna die soon, and like waiting for some nebulous time in the future when my transition would be perfect would be playing into their game. Screw them, and their norms. We are gonna show people that you can do this, be a kind soul, and still crush work. I just back off on the social things like I still go by masc. pronouns at work and dress masc, even with tits lol. I just wear sports bras and use the men's room still.

Best of luck! My advice: don't wait

After 1 year, not out officially. They both pointed out some physical changes and have not pressed the issue when i was a brick wall about the topic. They used to both make crude anti-queer jokes occasionally and that kinda stopped.. My friends that I consider family are incredibly supportive! One day I might come out to my parents, but I don't feel like I owe it to them and I just don't like them much for about a decade now so it's not a huge loss!

i_O is lovely