We definitely also grew apart. I have been really bad at keeping the relationship alive. Like, in the 10 years we've been together, I've been able to maybe arrange a handful of date nights. I never initiate doing anything fun, like a surprise weekend trip or a special date night, because I'm so bad at planning and arranging things.
I think that at the beginning my wife ignored some of the ADHD red flags that were definitely already there because we were so in love. When we moved to a different city two years into our relationship she took care of everything but it wasn't an issue then. Eventually she realized that she was taking care of everything all the time.
Our problems actually did start during Covid but I don't think the pandemic / the lockdown had anything to do with it. But that was when we moved to a new apartment for the second time and my wife started to realize that she was the one taking care of everything.