I haven't played it in years, but I remember getting really cozy vibes from "VA-11 Hall-A: Cyberpunk Bartender Action". You basically just talk to customers and hear their stories while serving drinks. I didn't end up playing all the way to the end, but I remember it being really chill and laid back.

Come to think of it, since I didn't know I was trans back when I played it, I'm now wondering if some of the cozy vibes came from diffuse, unrecognized gender euphoria via the female protagonist. Been meaning to play it again to see how it strikes me now.

Actually, this is getting me kind of hype to play it; I think I'll fire it up.

Clicking through to the additional statistics is really interesting. The equivalent graph for Monthly Active Users shows a big bump in June/July 2023. That lines up with the reddit event, iirc. If those causality assumptions are accurate, it's neat how the numbers for total users is more affected by Twitter, but the numbers for active users is more affected by Reddit.

EDIT: nevermind, I didn't realize the timelines were different. The big Twitter exodus isn't actually in the second graph, so they can't be compared. It probably had a bigger impact there as well.

New gender goals just dropped.

Love this text. Reading this is what started my final, frantic sprint towards hatching.

I'd just like to say that I really appreciate how this was handled.

In order to curate a space like this, it's important to address issues swiftly and decisively, and I would absolutely consider questionable behavior on the part of an instance admin to be a major issue. It's not really feasible to start a discussion with every instance, nor should you be required to - especially when it's not clear that such a discussion would be welcomed in good faith.

The 48 hour notice is an effective courtesy for local users, and in this case resulted in immediate improvements on the other instance, which would probably have lacked motivation without the impending defederation. And with the problem addressed, the defederation was just as swiftly rescinded.

Well done!

You've already got a ton of great advice, and it sounds like your next steps are lined up, so I'll just throw in some words of encouragement and further reading in case you're interested.

Since I had my moment of realization, the mindset I've tried to stick to is "the only way out is through." For me, at this point, that means transition, but it doesn't have to - that's up to you. The reason I bring it up is because it's very easy for this kind of thing to be derailed by the complexities, distractions, and dramatic events of regular life - especially if you turn out to be repressed and looking for excuses to kick the can down the road, like I was. You will likely benefit from sticking with it, in the sense of really engaging with this question and carrying through until you find a satisfying answer for yourself, whatever that answer will end up being. If you are transgender, delaying it will only mean coming back to it later in life, after having suffered needlessly. And if you're not, there's no harm in having taken the time to know yourself a bit better.

I'd also like to share some links that were instrumental to me getting through the questioning phase to the other side, in the order I encountered them.

• These two are related, and are about symptoms of gender dysphoria that are not obviously related to gender. Since you already read the Gender Dysphoria Bible, it probably won't be news to you.
  • https://genderanalysis.net/articles/that-was-dysphoria-8-signs-and-symptoms-of-indirect-gender-dysphoria/
  • https://genderanalysis.net/2017/06/depersonalization-in-gender-dysphoria-widespread-and-widely-unrecognized/
• This one paints a vivid picture of the kinds of experiences you might have had growing up if you happen to be a trans woman who likes women, and really drives home how it's possible to grow up without realizing you're trans. It did a lot to help me recognize myself in trans stories and really see it as a possibility.
  • https://medium.com/the-identity-current/plight-of-the-transbian-4ab1a048b09b
• This one gives more of a logical/philosophical argument that helped shift my thinking in terms of the possibility of being trans.
  • https://freethoughtblogs.com/nataliereed/2012/04/17/the-null-hypothecis/
• And this was the killing stroke, as it has been for so many others. The link is just to page one; to get the full story/effect you need to click through for the whole conversation that follows.
  • https://reallifecomics.com/comic.php?comic=june-29-2020

Hope some of that helps, or is at least interesting.

I like the sound of that! It's definitely on my list of priorities, but I haven't managed to start yet. Do you have any suggestions on the nature of the exercise? I struggle with energy and motivation, so keeping it simple and easy to implement is paramount. Planning to start simple with walking and stairs, then if/when I feel up to it, branch out into something basic like dumbbells or maybe novice yoga if that's safe to do without an instructor.

I'm basically in the same boat, so take my input with a grain of salt. That said, from what I've read, it's important to avoid, or at least be careful with, guides that focus on muscle training. There are exercises out there that can apparently be harmful and cause injury. When I get started in earnest, I'm planning to begin with TransVoiceLessons on YouTube. The girl in those videos frequently makes the point that nothing in voice training should be painful or cause strain, which sounds sensible and encouraging to me. Of course, there will be muscle memory training - it's muscle strength training that can be problematic.

That might be off topic to your actual question, but I wanted to throw it out there just in case.

That's because the FtM lads are all too busy chopping lumber and winning bread.

Absolutely agree. I'll always remember this as the place that finally cracked my egg, with gratitude. And it's been welcoming, helpful, and fun since then, too. ❤️

Even if it is that low in relative terms, your point probably still stands.

I’m anti consumers (hate my self because I’m buying stuff theses times ofc XD)

Remember - gender dysphoria is a legitimate illness. That means whatever you're buying is medicine, so it doesn't count as consumerism. 😉 ❤️