Some people hate their own agency. They want to be told what to do by a ‘higher power’, whether that’s God, men, a cult leader… that way they can safely say nothing in life is their fault.
It’s the adult version of wrapping themselves in a blanket because they’re scared of something. That something being their own choices, or worse, random chance, leading them to fail.
But those who desire control often desire both to be subject to it and to exert it over others. So a hierarchy forms. Men tell those women what to do, and in turn they tell those lower on the ‘ladder’ (younger women, children, and in their ideal world ‘others’ like PoC) what to do. Thus everything in their life is controlled, and they feel safe. And they get to have a little power of their own, again without real responsibility, because they’re just underlings for someone ‘higher on the ladder’.
Unfortunately pared with this attitude is the magic thinking that ‘as long as everyone follows The Rules and keeps to Their Proper Place then nothing bad will happen ever’. They literally believe that The Hierarchy is the only thing keeping civilization from disintegrating into chaos.
It’s not that they don’t realize they’re buffoons, it’s that the buffoons are ‘following The Rules’ and so are they, so that buffoonery will never be turned on them.
Paired with this is the belief that everyone thinks exactly as they do, just some people are too stupid to realize it. So they need to exert The Rules and The Hierarchy to help those poor other people see sense.