The threadiverse is already a small community. What would happen if we defederate from X instance ? (For Hexbear, that’s another problem.) Most users will leave and I’m not talking about us.
Partially true, particularly in the direction of defederation from LW that has something like 40% of Threadiverse users and iirc still the majority of the most highly active communities. But I want to point out the converse point that people (especially mainstream non-technical normal folks) are also leaving, citing as their reason why all the calls that they see for actual, irl murder of people. You said it yourself, Hexbear is a whole other problem, besides defederation from LW. So not defederating from instances (such as AN?) that ignores the considerations of the wider Fediverse is an even more destructive act than retaining federation.
Thus it is a balancing act, as the Paradox of Intolerance guides us: we want the absolute highest, maximum diversity of opinions, while stopping short of inclusion of those offerred in bad faith. And saying that you want to murder your debate opponent, rather than use your words to espouse the higher principles of your ideals and thereby potentially win the debate, as opposed to merely vomiting ones feelings upon the Fediverse community, especially against its wishes, definitely sounds to me like the epitome if bad faith? AN is entirely free to put out calls for actual, irl murder of the entire families of a fellow instance's admin teams if they wish, but in that case why should the recipient instances be forced into platforming those, rather than be free to block them?
I don't want yet another Hexbear in my feed, and I am tired of people telling me that I simply must put up with all the "free speech" that whoever - Elon Musk, Steve Huffman, Donald Trump, or whoever - wants to put in front of my eyes. It is not "unfair" to enforce previously announced rules - and calling for the actual irl murder of people seems to me to fall into that category?
I also note that PieFed offers the ability for a user to block an entire instance, whereas its technologically less-capable elder cousin Lemmy cannot keep up, thus necessitating full instance defederation not as the only possible option, but as the only one that the Lemmy software deigns to provide to new, non-technical normal people who want to view the Threadiverse, especially without an account, or soon thereafter before they learn to ignore all the toxicity coming from "certain instances". This is precisely what the Paradox of Intolerance tells us (among other things): that their messages (calls for murder) get counted as our messages, when someone does not know how to tell the difference.






You are quite welcome! I was not going to publicly call out your community by name, but it is so appreciated that the goal is to improve everyone's experience however that might best be accomplished. :-)