NGnius

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[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago (2 children)

It sounds like you've found a great guy, I can understand why you wouldn't want to let him go. I hope he sees just as much greatness in you.

I feel by making the small sacrifice of having a sub optimal relationship dynamic I am making it so that for once the good guy wins.

Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm, but if this is what you both want then give the relationship dynamic (not the fire thing) a try. I also can't help but notice that all of your examples of bad people are in the USA -- you might find a more optimistic outlook in Europe or in other developed countries.

Everyone knows that men benefit more from relationships then women, I am taking on that burden to make it up to him

Please don't ever believe this. It's just internalized misogyny. If you're in a relationship where you're giving more than you're getting, that's a horrible relationship and you should leave.

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Identity and morality are way more heavily intertwined than your reasoning makes it out to be. Rules that maintain group cohesion is part of the group's identity, but you've defined that as morality. For example, the mafia is known specifically for their lack of morality within their ranks and outside of it. Religious communities have similar reputations (e.g. hating minorities, others, etc.).

My biggest objection, though, is the idea that there must be an in-group. That implies that there is an out-group. A stable society is not one where there is inequality in any appreciable amount. People in the out-group will feel like outcasts and will literally fight to become part of the in-group. I don't think anyone would call (civil?) wars a sign of stability*.

PS If you ask a less leading question you might get less downvoted

* They could be a sign of upcoming stability, though that's not the same thing.

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago (7 children)

You need to rebuild that trust that was destroyed by the cheating and the breakup. You should also have a long talk with your boyfriend about any unhealed wounds from that time. If you're going to make it work, a lot of communication needs to happen and keep happening. It sounds like you made a good first step by identifying part of the reason you cheated and fixing it!

So we are getting back together I remember how much I love him and miss him the past 9 months without him and he is missing me to

I'm a bit concerned about this. These are natural parts of a breakup and really aren't good reasons to get back together, since it could just as easily be an inability to get over each other. Also seeing your comment in reply to another

Also we don’t want to break up. I have been through so much with him and he has done so much for me. He likewise knows that dating is hard especially where we live it’s not like he has girls sliding into his dms to replace me.

It gets more concerning. It sounds like both of you want to stay together because you don't want to be alone. A healthy relationship is one that all parties can leave at any moment but choose to stay because they want to. You don't want it to be like an addiction where you say you can quit anytime but really you can't because you won't be able to handle the withdrawal.

I think a healthy mindset for this is that being single is ok. Breaking up will be ok, eventually. I'm not saying you should break up and be single, but just you should be aware that if you're wondering why you're putting up with your boyfriend, it's because he's adding more than being single (with friends and maybe casual sex) can to your life. If that's ever not true, run.

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago

It might be time to boycott Egypt too

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Preface: I don't dislike the King, I dislike the monarchy. Hate is too strong of a word -- I think it's not worth the effort to completely remove the monarchy from the Canadian constitution (it opens a can of worms), but I think next time the constitution gets changed it should be done.

Canada doesn’t pay anything towards the Royal family except the cost of visits

That seems like a great reason to not like the guy. He takes our money whenever he visits. If I visit another country they don't pay for anything.

He has no power, and he uses his influence

"Soft power" is another term for influence, so the king still has power.

campaign on the same things people on here like climate activism and access to healthcare.

That's great! Except he's doing it on private jets and with enough money to pay for many people's healthcare.

Honestly, I think Elon Musk has more credentials for political influence (he did at least run a few moderately successful companies with his parents' money). And I'm under no illusions that Elon Musk is a good influence. What are the king's credentials? Being heir to dictators responsible for colonialism, many wars, etc.? Sounds like a really bad case of nepotism. The king is doing good work now, but there's nothing stopping him from using his influence for something incredibly destructive in the next five seconds.

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 month ago

Good point (I shouldn't drop words). The Z2 A, which is in the lower-end Xbox Ally X, is basically the Steam Deck's chip. AMD naming is so strange.

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 month ago (3 children)

It's mostly an iteration on existing handhelds with extra Microsoft changes on top. It's exciting if you don't want to leave the comfort of Windows. Unfortunately, it's just as much of a nightmare for privacy and other ethical reasons as other Windows handhelds. It also seems like it's going to be power hungry and not aimed at directly competing with the Steam Deck, which is still the industry standard right now. Handhelds need more efficiency, not more performance.

Also it's Z2 Extreme, not Zen 2 Extreme. The Steam Deck's APU is based on Zen 2, the Z2 is based on Zen 5.

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 month ago

Repeating misogyny is still harmful even if it isn't your own thoughts that are misogynistic

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

First post by user, user is 2 weeks old, website contains no other products or information.

Any way to confirm this is legit?

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 12 points 1 month ago

If you're a bit forgiving with the definition of "Robin Hood", large open source projects that are sponsored by big corporations.

The money they get from companies is given to (usually underpaid) contributors and to keep the project going, to the benefit of everyone.

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago

You say you're open source but don't link to the open source code. Nothing more

[–] NGnius@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Their source code: https://github.com/silexlabs

there's a lot of mention about being FOSS but they never actually prove it, which is funny to me

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