You seem like a very angry person. You should probably stop calling people 'tards' and 'pussies' while you advocate for for mental health and against sexism but I would first work on that near homicidal rage you seem to be harboring.

Thankfully I have a fairly large support network of family and friends I can rely on. I'll be okay no matter what happens. I just want her to be okay too

Thank you, I did need to hear that. When I called up my brother he said a lot of the same stuff. I know there's a possibility she's going to choose alcohol over our relationship and I'm ready to recognize when that happens. But I don't think it's there yet. If she doesn't go to this counseling meeting she scheduled then I'll have to rethink things, unfortunately. I know from experience how bad it can be and how little you care about other people when you're in that hole but sometimes you just need someone to throw you a rope down to help you climb up and I'm hoping that's the case here. And that she chooses to take it and make the effort to climb up herself.

Unfortunately she doesn't really have any support besides me. At least, none that she trusts herself. I'm trying to encourage her to make friends and branch out a bit but she's very anxious and shy which, I get, I am too. And yeah I've been really bad about saying "no more drinking" and then letting her convince me with "oh baby it's just ONE I PROMISE it'll be fine tonight" and it never is. But I put my foot down last night and I do intend to stick by it this time because I've tried a gentle caring lax attitude and that didn't work so this is it now I guess.

Thank you for this, I know she can get through this and come out okay on the other side. I hope she doesn't have to almost die for that to happen though

How did that go for you? I know it's a personal thing but if you would be willing to expand on your experiences there in AA a little I would appreciate it, thank you

Well I had issues with drinking myself when I was younger and I got through it decently fine. I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience yourself but I'm really hoping it doesn't turn out that way here. Though I do know the possibility exists. When she's sober she still says she wants help. As long as she doesn't give up entirely on herself I'm not giving up on her either.

Neither of us want children and yes I really true love her. I'm not planning on leaving her I just want to help her through this. I know she can do this and I believe in her and I'm not going to give up on her until she gives up on herself. I'd take a bullet for her no second thought.

Yeah she has an appointment with a non religious help group soon, AA would just make it worse for her I know. The thing is when she's sober she really DOES want to get help. And then she gets cravings and she caves and it's always just one but then just one turns into two turns into 6 turns into 12....She hates herself the next morning and it's real regret. She wants help, and she knows she needs it, but she's just struggling with actually going through with cutting everything out

Tutorials are designed for the dumbest person out there who has zero idea what they're doing. So in this case someone who has never driven a car or played a racing game before. If a tutorial told you "this works like the last game, do the same" it's obviously bad design. Yeah that's a super small subset of the people playing the game but it's better to overexplain than underexplain. But in this case yeah they should 100% just have a separate tutorial mode section for people who need it, having that REQUIRED in a racing game is ridiculous. I haven't played racing games in years but last I remember that's what used to be the norm.

Also if you haven't heard the medical term for this yet, it's called dermatillomania, if it helps you to put a name to it.

Guessing you played BG3 and wanted to check out Larian's other stuff? I always had Beast as summoner whenever I used him. He's a battlemage by default so summoner isn't too far off really. Summoner is also REALLY REALLY good, even without the gift pack mod buff. Since summoner stuff only relies on your skill points and not attributes you can basically dump intelligence for constitution/strength/memory if you need it too. Faster movement is basically necessary to me too, I've sunk so many hundreds of hours in that game and missing so many trophies just because it feels so slow without it.