FirstMajesticComet

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I can't, I barely have any androgens at all (only small levels of testosterone and estrogen in equal parts), that's probably a bad thing and I probably should be taking hormones of some kind but I'd prefer my body not be masculine or feminized, and I'm also too lazy to get them prescribed. I mean it's worked out well enough for me for the past 20 or so years so it'll probably be fine, and if it isn't oh well I guess.

Should also crosspost this to !femboy@lemmy.blahaj.zone I think this seems relevant for that community, too bad we don't have a c/femboymemes, this would go even better there.

I think the implication was cisgender people who are gender non-conforming. That term is often misused to refer specifically to people who are trans or nonbinary when it actually just means people who don't conform to gender stereotypes regardless of their gender identity.

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Glad I could be helpful, if anyone is interested I made a community to discuss Isogender experiences !isogender@lemmy.blahaj.zone

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Well you'd benefit from that part then.

Yeah, it's nice to see more people posting here again.

You didn't do anything wrong by the way OP, I just leave these reminders on posts where it seems like violations may happen in the comments to remind others to keep it together.

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Just to give a disclaimer for people who might comment, it's not okay to tell actual other people that they are an egg to their face or behind their back. When dealing with real people it is mandatory to observe the egg prime directive, and to respect the way they identify. Failure to do so will result in moderative action being taken against your content or your account, including being banned from Egg_irl. Just a reminder for people who may be new here or not understand.

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Do you at least want to be cute and feminine?

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

You can always shave or use hair remover products, most femboys do that since they usually still have body hair. Hell most women do that, because even women have body hair.

Of course, as long as they're valid reposts to related communties/groups (can also post it to Masotodon) and you don't spam.

Yeah, it sucks when the country you live in is unaccepting or hostile and/or also enforces stupid gender stereotypes of what people can and can't wear. I'm glad I live somewhere that is largely accepting, it sucks to deal with people who are transphobic or hostile towards gender-non-conformity.

 

One thing I get a lot as an Isogender is people who are confused about what it means or who think it's just trans. I'm going to break down what it means, why we are not trans, or cis for that matter, while also addressing some of the arguments brought up about us (these are arguments I and others have recieved on this).


What does it mean to be Isogender?

Isogender is a gender modality which falls outside of the cis and trans umbrellas, it exists as its own thing. Simply put Isogender is neither cis nor trans. You might be wondering how does that work exactly if cis=AGAB and trans≠AGAB? Well it's slightly different for different people but one explanation I've heard is that AGAB is Irrelevant to people who identify as Isogender.

Personally the way that cis and trans are worded or described these days isn't great in my opinion as it seems to try and remove other options outside of the two. It enforces a binary, under those strict definitions one can either be Cis or Trans with no clear path In-between or neither.


"Isogender is 'technically' trans then because it isn't cis, you're just choosing not to Identify as trans"

Nope it isn't, it is neither cis nor trans, the reason is that we identify as neither. It's based on the idea that the way we identify is valid and determines who we are. Arguing technicality when it comes to a person's identity is very invalidating, as if to say they are wrong about how they identify without directly saying they're wrong.


"Isogender doesn't exist, you're in denial about being trans bc Internalized Transphobia"

Umm... No. If it didn't exist it wouldn't have been coined and it wouldn't have multiple Wiki pages about it. People are free to identify how they feel is comfortable, an trying to argue that their identity or reasons for not identifying as trans aren't valid and that they have transphobia isn't respecting their identity, it's attempting to change their mind by telling them that it is bad or wrong to not identify as trans, or to not feel comfortable identifying as trans.


"It's important to identify as trans even if you are Non-Binary to show that transgender is more than transsexual"

Yeah... No, it's important to identify the way that feels comfortable and correct for you. Gender identities are for the person identifying, not anyone else. You should not, nor should you be expected to identify a particular way for someone else. If it feels right to identify as trans then you can, if it doesn't than you don't have to, that's like the whole point of Isogender and other gender modalities, having options outside of the dichotomy.


"Anyone without Gender Dysphoria is just Cis and wants attention"

Transmedicalism will not be tolerated here under Rule 3 and Rule 4, there is no debate here, transmedicalism is a very hostile and harmful form of gatekeeping. People's identities are Valid and should be respected, transmedicalism fights against that, so it should be treated as the form of Bigotry that it is.


Conclusion

While this may not have covered all basis I did get to touch on what Isogender is, as well as some of the misconceptions and also some of the extremely harmful arguments related to it, and hopefully addressed them so we will not see them posted here out of Ignorance.

I will leave this post up in case people would like to add anything else, or engage in constructive criticism but if there is any significant hostility or attacks the comments may be locked.

 

[IMAGE DESCRIPTION] drowning kid + skeleton Meme

In the top panel a mother and her kids are together in a swimming pool. The mother with text "egg_irl" is holding up her daughter with the text "transfems" over her. Meanwhile her son is drowning while she doesn't notice him with the text "transmascs" over him.

In the bottom Panel a skeleton is chained to a chair at the bottom of the ocean with the text "NonBinary/Genderqueer", "Genderfluid", and "Agender" over it. Each label is colored in the colors of their own Flags respectively.

[END OF IMAGE DESCRIPTION]

context: Back on the original egg_irl subreddit it was common for there to be a disproportionate amount of transfem memes versus the others and a lot of them forgot to flair as [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem] when needed and also a few were a bit targeting towards transmascs and masculine enbies i.e.

spoiler"get rid of your toxic, masculine mannerisms"
or
spoiler"transmascs have cute feminine faces"
. Some people even started saying Egg_irl is specifically a women's space and not a trans space in general.

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