A lot of communities I participate in are thankfully drama-free but it is hard for me to forget there are mods because the person providing a lot of the content usually has a little M for Moderator next to their name ;-; I'm glad yours has enough participants that I assume that does not happen
I have noticed that the otome creators who are on the Fediverse are on Mastodon. I'm not going to give up on !otomegames@ani.social, I prefer threaded discussion to microblogging, especially because threaded discussion allows more characters per post. But I figure if I want to help grow otome on Fedi and show there are interested gamers here, maybe attract some otome players to post here instead of r/otomegames, maybe I should go where there are people. (And try to get them to post on !otomegames@ani.social!) I love r/otomegames, nice bunch of people, no hate, it is just… well… on Reddit. I came to Fedi to get off of Reddit. I applied on https://mstdn.games and am waiting for approval.
Still very grateful for the one person who is not me who makes posts on !otomegames@ani.social, they have their own communities that are pretty cool too! Check out theirs at !renpy@discuss.tchncs.de
!otomegames@ani.social !touhou@lemmy.world !visualnovels@lemmy.comfysnug.space (lemmy.comfysnug.space) !visualnovels@ani.social
Yeah, I can see possibilities for those two types of communities to get into fights with each other and it makes me happy when we just coexist. Although I admit it is also at least partially because right now we are super tiny.
It does not help that there were other women when I was initially on otomegames@kbin.social but they dropped off eventually and kbin.social is dead. Not sure where they went or if they'll find this place.
A silver lining to the otome community being small on the Fediverse is that it is okay to make duplicate communities. I specifically created this community instead of trying to reactivate the inactive !otome_games@lemmy.world because frankly the English errors in the sidebar were not a good look, and I wanted a community that could not fall prey to one of my greatest annoyances in online anime-adjacent fandom: the community being all fanart reposts, with little to no discussion or original fanart. !otome_games@lemmy.world allowed non-original fanart, !otomegames@ani.social does not. r/otomegames was more discussion and original fanart than just Pixiv reposts and I really liked that. I liked that a lot and wanted to bring some of that here. (And I also get to be less harsh on self-promoters. I understand not wanting the sub spammed with Discords or daily dev updates but I certainly do not want to chuck new communities in a weekly self-promo post nobody reads, or restrict new devs quite as heavily as r/otomegames does.)
Very glad !otomegames@ani.social has interaction from people that are not me. Hoping to possibly poach some r/otomegames users, though it's not likely thanks to r/otomegames shoving all promotion of other communities into the Self-Promotion Sunday posts nobody looks at. And I still participate on r/otomegames in fear that one day they'll say "too much self-promo of another community, not enough normal community engagement, you are just trying to advertise, off you go!" I did actually use that sub normally before I left Reddit for the Fediverse. Also advertised it in otome Discords I am in.
I think I'm also getting more upvotes, if not engagement, thanks to the home instance being ani.social and otome games being a primarily Japanese genre with even the Western-released games usually following an anime artstyle.
talks about real life gender dynamics, nothing accusatory or All GENDER Does BAD ACTION, but if you are absolutely sick of seeing stuff talking about real life demographic stuff online, you might not want to open it
Frankly, the lack of engagement is… predictable. I'm pretty sure the instance is not all dudes who are interested in women, but judging by the Moe communities posting anime women being the most popular Local communities, and many of the anime-specific communities mainly posting pictures of female characters with comparatively little discussion, ani.social likely has a large male-interested-in-women population (yes, I acknowledge there could be other genders posting that, or people of any demographic who like the art but are not attracted to women). So I'm grateful for their non-destructive engagement with a community aimed at women interested in men.
I'm glad such people exist, as a woman interested in men—I'd be very SOL if there were no men interested in women. No bad behavior has occurred so far on the community, and I doubt it will. But unlike real-life male-dominated environments where I feel normal (yes, I'm aware my privileged existence as what, at least online, seems to be one of the few women alive without a harassment or men-being-shitty-in-a-gendered-way story, is the reason I can have this perspective), it actually feels a little weird having one femgaze community on ani.social, where male-gazey communities (and communities that are ostensibly general purpose—for the anime they are named after—but in practice they're often male-gazey too) dominate. I have no issue with male-gazey anime content existing, men deserve a place to release their sexuality in a healthy manner, same as everyone else. (I am also very much taking advantage of the Subscribed-only view so I can avoid the tons of Local content I am uninterested in, which goes a long way towards my tolerant attitude :P I might not be so friendly if I had to see it to use ani.social, the same way people are irritated with otherwise-harmless Linux fans because they want to use Local/All and it's full of Linux posts that they personally are uninterested in.) It just feels weird to be on an instance full of it as a woman disinterested in male-gazey content who is also trying to start a femgazey community on the exact same instance.
Oh my. Just got here from Local and now I am shoving yet another anime on my To Watch list…
If it's worth anything, I figured it was a 50% chance you were a Musk fan and a 50% chance you just liked the pun with no particular fondness for the man.
Thank you, especially for posting sometimes so that it is not just me screaming into the void!
To be honest I forget, but it was back when I was on kbin.run and within the past 2 weeks. I have tried a few other instances and it does not work from them. Thank you for your advice, I will definitely be putting it to use!
No problem!
I am not sure what to do about certain other communities I followed. !automation_games@feddit.de seems to still be active from the last time I could access kbin.run, even though feddit.de is gone and some instances cannot see the community at all (probably because feddit.de is dead. I am guessing kbin.run could probably see it because an account—probably mine—was subscribed before feddit.de died), and its mod is active. I messaged them about moving at least a week ago, no reply (will be resending because that message was sent with my now-inaccessible kbin.run account). Not sure if it would be bad etiquette to just start my own somewhere not-dead.
Not a Musk fan but your username is great!
This is terrible for artist exposure but great for keeping my hands free of Facebook: I usually click and enlarge the image on Lemmy without ever touching the source link. But I do appreciate you attributing the source when the picture is not something you shot, I always thought that was appropriate netiquette. I link the source myself if I'm posting something I did not make. If it's on some undesirable place like Facebook I add in a little "link goes to Facebook" warning if it isn't just a plain URL where you can literally read the link is on Facebook.
—https://www.facebook.com/privacy/policy?annotations[0]=1.ex.41-InformationWeCollectIf
So even though I don't have an account myself, so many non-Facebook sites use their business tools, have that tracking Meta Pixel embedded that they have my data anyways. I am aware you might say "then why worry about going to their site, they have stuff on you anyways," I don't want to give them more and it is the principle of the thing. I'm not helping them by being another of your 300 friends on Facebook so you feel a tiny bit of additional pressure to give in and get one to stay in touch with people. This is probably why people don't want to be infected with Facebook cooties.
One way I look at it, and that you might want to advise these people to look at it, is that they benefit from our data without paying us a cent. We benefit back by having you use their hosting to store the cute owl image so we can see it for free on Lemmy without having to go to their website. I remember storms being made about hotlinking awhile ago on the internet. Wikipedia says it's also sometimes known as "bandwidth theft" or "leeching". I am not an "eye for an eye" type but Facebook is a huge corporation, not a human being with feelings or human rights. Facebook leeches my data, I encourage people to leech their bandwidth :)