Honestly as of this year I've gone very much from "my mom did her best" to "my mom could've done better" to "wait is x not normal" to "I hate my mom."
I know I shouldn't say that, we're family and she was a single mom taking care of me in a dysfunctional family. But it's the hypocrisy mostly, like how she constantly complained that everyone lacks empathy for her but never gave me any empathy for the things she did while drunk, or for emotionally abusing/exploiting me, or constantly guilt tripping me, or the fact that I said I was scared of her during one of her outbursts and she said she should be scared of me.
Gods, it's just...I don't like her. I honestly wish I could've had a normal person see the way she treated me behind closed doors.
It's wierd because it got worse as I got older. Somehow the kid who was screaming and tantrumming was treated nicer than the one that was obedient, pliable, and an emotional punching bag.