Feminism

My good friend gets ZERO information from the school even though he's the primary contact. Not even a peep from them when his daughter went to the hospital. He found out from the hospital when they were irate he hadn't come to sign paperwork for her to receive treatment.

He's talked to the principal numerous times, all the kids teachers, admin, and threatened to get a lawyer involved. They've even shown him the computer where he's listed as primary at the top really big and his ex you have to to out of your way to scroll down to her name. Still happens every time no matter who's calling.

We are economists who study gender and families. We wanted to understand whether schools themselves might unintentionally contribute to this imbalance by defaulting to contacting mothers more than fathers. Our recent research suggests they do.

As a Dad with majority custody who does all the school coordination, homework, extracurriculars, and various appointments, this is maddening and real. Mom is assumed to be the default parent even when they aren’t.

This drives me insane. I get calls from daycare and school even if it isn’t my parenting time and my kid’s dad info is given.

The example about the phone calls, the forcing moms to be the point of contact, adding stress to couples and exacerbating stress and burnout is accurate. I definitely had some resentment build up when I was with my ex simply because the world allowed him to be a sub-par parent while putting my parenting under a microscope.

Everyday I try to disprove this stereotype by being wildly unknowledgeable about my own children (at least while engaging with the school). They are starting to default to my husband now...