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[–] Arghblarg@lemmy.ca 85 points 1 week ago (33 children)

I just find them unnattractive; generally not into piercings or tattoos. To each their own...

[–] PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 24 points 1 week ago

Same, and it's not something I really care to shout from the roof because why does my opinion matter and I don't want to tell people what to do in the first place, but it's also something I can never say even in passing because of what group of people it puts me in

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 15 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Same.

Although maybe "unnattractive" isn't a good fit because I do understand that it's not a woman's default objective to "be attractive" to me. It's more just that maybe I'm a bit weird about ears and noses. If you have something hanging out of your nose my lizard brain alerts me that it's probably a booger. My more sophisticated hominid brain is aware that it's not, but this creates a kind of unsolvable feedback loop that's unsolvable.

Yesterday I was interviewing a candidate for a job. I'm genuinely trying to listen and engage with this cacophony of booger not-booger booger not-booger going on.

[–] Arghblarg@lemmy.ca 15 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I didn't say it was anyone's objective to be attractive to me. And it isn't. I just have (as does everyone else) the agency to decide for myself what I find attractive or not.

Thank you for pointing out the possibly ambiguity of my response though, so I could clarify.

[–] four@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Do you decide what you find attractive? Or just observe and notice? Could you decide that something is attractive for you?

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[–] Viceversa@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago (13 children)

Although maybe "unnattractive" isn't a good fit because I do understand that it's not a woman's default objective to "be attractive" to me.

When you say that something is unattractive , it's your personal opinion which you are entitled to. It's fine. We are people, we are diverse.

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[–] FrChazzz@lemmus.org 67 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Am I the only one low-key annoyed that the photo does not show a septum piercing (I understand it's called a "smiley" piercing--done on the frenulum of the upper lip)? It's Alysa Liu's signature look.

[–] noseatbelt@piefed.ca 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Nah I was squinting at the picture trying to find it.

[–] Phantaloons@piefed.zip 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

your wife walks by

400X view of some girl's nose on your monitor

"...I don't even wanna know"

[–] Amputret@lemmy.dbzer0.com 43 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I mean, I’m an anarchist and I don’t find women with septum piercings sexually appealing.

Then again, I am a gay man.

[–] kamen@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Then again, I am a gay man.

Small detail.

[–] DreadPirateSnuggles@lemmy.ca 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)
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[–] ceenote@lemmy.world 38 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Ha! I thought the punchline would be something like "they're an effective deterrent."

[–] missphant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 64 points 1 week ago (3 children)
[–] trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 34 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That rainbow hair looks cool af

[–] Viceversa@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago

Unfortunately, not for very long

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[–] xtr0n@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 week ago

If I’m ever single again I may get one just to help filter out closet conservatives.

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[–] MBech@feddit.dk 22 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I'm sorry what? You gotta be over 18 to get a septum piercing in USA? Why???

[–] ThePantser@sh.itjust.works 24 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Infection liability, gotta be old enough to sign that you won't sue for infection or disfigurement.

[–] Chronographs@lemmy.zip 14 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I think your parent can sign those for you though

[–] ThePantser@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 week ago (7 children)

Parent can let you get anything if they let you. You mist be 18 to do it for yourself.

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[–] tpihkal@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

You can but you'd need to have a parent present to give permission. Or...you can be me in your teens and just do all your own piercings.

[–] oxideseven@lemmy.ca 16 points 1 week ago

I love septum piercings, and piercings in general. And tattoos. And weird hair.

[–] expatriado@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

not a fan of the booger piercing, but just a personal taste thing

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 week ago

When my husband got his he said he could smell it healing and that's a no for me dawg. He removed it not long after.

[–] sheetzoos@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Septum rings were originally used to control livestock.

Real ones love people with septum rings because they're submissive and breedable.

[–] spacegoat@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago

I don’t necessarily find them unattractive but I find that I don’t have confidence to approach women with them.

[–] GladiusB@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago (8 children)

That's not technically correct though. At least it wasn't many years ago. People can get pierced with a guardian's approval and sign off. They cannot get a tattoo though.

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[–] Not_mikey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 week ago

Honestly I think this is most hetero men, I know a lot of liberal/socialist men who don't find them attractive.

Feel like this joke works better with tattoos, both because I don't know any lefty people who find them unattractive, and since most people know you need to be 18 to get one, while most assume septum piercings are like any other piercing and you can get them at whatever age.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Almost every girl whos ever shown interest in me had a septum piercing lol

[–] Thatuserguy@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Please tell me the secret to your success

[–] Viceversa@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago

Be a piercer

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 week ago

I have no tattoos or piercings

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[–] thlibos@thelemmy.club 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I don't know what's wrong with me but septum piercings on women are the sexiest thing ever, for some reason I don't feel the same way about them on men.

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[–] CAVOK@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

That's Alysa Liu and iirc she did that piercing herself.

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