I am not sure. Older and experienced, though. A few before my first monogamous run with my ex, that lasted about 20 years, then a few more, then my husband & I did some swinging, and have settled down to just us for about 8 years. But every day, it's nice.
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It depends on what you count
a virgin at 21, a 29 year relationship and then approx 15 in 8 years
15 from age 50-58?
Zero
Just don't have the drive. Perfectly happy with not bothering with the social dynamics required to flirt / commit etc. I don't have much need to have a partner either short term or long term.
No idea if I'm just weird or if it's a somewhat common thing for some people.
Probably about 30.
These answers are wild, didn't know lemmings were such dirty dogs (in a good way <3)
Being the awkward socially disabled neuromasala dude that I am, I count myself lucky to have even met my wife and had the guts to say "hello" when we finally met face to face after 5 months of texting. I absolutely can't fathom hooking up with someone I barely know, and here y'all are going "oh I lost count", "low 3 digits", "are we counting orgies..?"
Trick question. Everyone on the Internet is a nerdy virgin waiting for Mom to bring us pizza rolls.
I'm pretty sure all of them were sexual. I however, am not.
26 if I include your mom
27 including OP's dad right
Zero. One of the easy ways to get wizard powers without being a racist.
Maybe a hundred by now, lost count. My wife has hundreds more than me, and we keep increasing our numbers together, so to speak. God I love my wife and I love my life.
Wife an I love to regularly go to sex clubs, we have regular partners we play with a lot, and we both give eachother the freedom that if we have an opportunity to have sex while the other isn't there, take it. We both simply love sex and we're super open and honest and respectful about our wants, needs, and desires
With this many partners don't you get afraid of catching STDs? How do you manage that?
Not who you asked, but as a former sex worker- condoms and regular std screenings.
I've never had an std and slept with probably nearing a thousand people.
counting your mom?
1
Congratulations, you’re the ten thousandth six hundred and forty third that she’s had and also that low on her list to call back.
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Is it bad if I say I don't remember?
Yeah, I started to count and just got kinda sad. Remembering the mistakes they were, or that I made. I don't really care all that much anyways.
More than 20. I disagree that it makes it less meaningful. But I have learned that there are many women who are bad at sex. It’s not just men.
Agreed. The worst once are those who think sex is a thing only men want and swear they have no need at all and don't know what they want or like.
My absolute pet peeve is women who don’t know how to get themselves off. I’m willing to put in the work, but if she doesn’t even know what works for her, then it’s never going to work.
Tell us about the bad ones
I got one, my second to last partner. I blame "squirting" becoming a thing. She would push so hard to pee to make it seem like she was squirting that she would push me out every minute or so.
Lost count but I'm confident it's somewhere between zero and 23423431.
Also I am one of the few who didn’t fuck OPs mom.
yet !
Don’t lie, everyone fucked ops mom
- But it feels really weird that someone I slept with hundreds of times, often in sessions of 40 minutes to two hours would count the same towards that number as someone who I slept with once for 15 minutes.
Of the 12, 4 were a single time, 1 was a few times and the rest were over a year of sleeping together, usually 2 or 3.
For what it's worth the sex was only physically pleasurable in the long term deals for me.
So far, I have only had one sexual partner. Thank you for asking, SatansMaggotyCumFart.
Nearing a thousand probably, I spent a few years as a sex worker at a busy brothel.
Disregarding sex work, idk like 60 or so, maybe more. Casual sex with friends was pretty normal with the various groups of people I used to hangout with.
Did you get a lot of regulars?
I did phone booth cards (yes, I'm old), personals, and parties at various points but most was repeat customers ... I had friends who worked at a massage parlour, and it sounded like a completely different world
I did some sugar baby-ing and fetish work at private events before I found the brothel and that involved a bunch of regulars and parties, but honestly the social aspect and having to maintain character for so long was just exhausting.
And negotiating payment and staying safe was also a constant battle as far too many guys would be like "but we're friends now" and get upset when I'd say otherwise.
I would have quit sex work or probably gotten murdered tbh had I not found the brothel.
Despite the brothel taking half of each booking as payment the security there was great and the rooms were really practically designed, plus the place was heaving most of nights I worked too.
I had a few local guys there who'd see me weekly, mainly I think though as we shared an ethnicity/language which is really rare in that part of the world. I think they were just lonely more than anything else tbh, I'd say about half my bookings with them were usually just getting high, cuddling and talking.
Most of the clientel otherwise were parties of guys celebrating stuff and tourists, which with the prebooked 1 hour time slots, was pretty easy to deal with.
lol, I'm in Asia at the moment doing contract work, and was chatting with a young coworker this morning ... he was genuinely put out by the way the local girls did fishing in the clubs (they're subtle as a brick), and the way they stuck rigidly to time limits. Bless his heart. I have no fucking idea why he thought that was a suitable conversation to have with me, but he's needed some head pats and encouragement, so maybe it was just pressure release.
Back in the day I happily handed over all the negotiations to my then-girlfriend for most of the time I was doing that work, because I was always shit at that too. She was a nasty piece of work, but a total rottweiler with the men.
Sounds like your brothel and my friends' massage parlour were pretty different, but then it was in an area with itinerant workers and no tourists - it seemed like every week one of the girls got knocked around or had to leave the room. I never had problems, but did lose a couple of friends.
Glad to say my regulars were almost all older guys who wanted a bit of mothering, as much as to get off. After I retired I kept my favourite one on for a couple more years. I think I needed him, it was comfortable.
What was the fetish stuff you did? Was it any fun?
We had a few slightly older Thai and Korean girls at our shop for a bit, who were like that when it came to subtlety. They were fantastic negotiators though and regularly seemed to make bank upselling random bullshit to guys.
I had a double booking with one of them once and spent much of it trying to keep my mouth busy so I wouldn't be keeled over laughing while she was basically rincing this guys wallet of cash selling him her kegal exercises (and he fucking paid her too. The massive Samoan guy standing outside the door was probably good insentive tho).
Some of the fetish jobs were a lot of fun, one lovely older dude I saw a few times had a whole bunch of very expensive sex toys and 'apparatus' and was super into using them on others. Always a fun night.
I also really enjoyed the handful of nights I did at this club that involved basically just edging tied up guys in front of people. The guy running that event was super creepy towards me though, like I'd start feeling unsafe the moment he even entered the room type of creepy. I blocked the club from messaging me again after he escalated things.
The rest of the fet stuff I did wasn't anywhere near as fun tbh. I stopped avertising for it on my profiles after one guy got violent, luckily he still paid me but the bruising it left me with was bad.
Also waaay too many guys want to be pissed on.
The only time I ever used the services of a sex worker was after my wife passed away. We didn't have sex, we just cuddled naked for an hour and I cried all over her. It was quite healing for me, as she had really huge boobs, like my wife did.
I think 9, of them one was a one-night stand and the rest I dated for a while
2 .. unless you let me count my hands
By some miracle, more than zero.
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