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I can go to any country, with the caveat that my mom would accompany me for part of it. I don't want to go someplace I've already been, so it can't be Taiwan, Canada, France, Germany, Morocco, Japan, Mexico, Ireland, or Argentina. I'm from the US and don't want to go to a state I've already been to either. I want somewhere that feels very different.

The reason that this is a hard decision is because my mom is up there in age and can't swim. I would really like to beach and party at least some of the time, but I don't want to do that with her because we're not the type to drink and do drugs in front of each other. The idea is that it would be 2 weeks for me and 1 for her, so we would start off together and then I'd be let loose and she'd fly home. When she is there we would do shorter hikes, visit museums, shop, and do normal tourist things. When she is gone I want to party and swim, so I need a place that is rich in both culture and unzh unzh.

The other issue is that it has to be June, and some places we would both be really interested in like Thailand and Vietnam would be too hot for me. Or would they? Idk, that's why I'm asking.

I would love to visit any country tbh but some would be less fun with my mom. Like in Kazakhstan I'd want to ride horses and sleep in yurts and it'll just be different with her since she can't do those things, so I will save that for solo travel. This also may be the last trip we take together so I want to make her happy. I bet the best option is Thailand in winter but June is when I won't be employed.

My thoughts:
Costa Rica--plenty to see and do with her, warm oceans for me after, many activities, but we only speak French, Chinese, Taiwanese, and English.

Cuba--same as above but could be difficult for US citizens?

Puerto Rico--I know it's part of the US but I haven't been and my only concern is the stability

Turkey--I was a history major with a focus on the Ottoman Empire so historical site would be fascinating to me, and I love cats, and there would be a lot of things I'd love to see while she's there and plenty of beaches for me.

South Korea--her idea. I think if we go there not speaking Korean we might struggle to have a good time without a strong itinerary. I want to go to Korea with a person who speaks Korean and can show me more authentic things so I don't just feel like I'm walking around looking at skyscrapers without a good itinerary. I'd also want to save up for some plastic surgery before going, lol.

New Zealand--only con is a long flight for a trip that will be on the short side for her if she's only going for a week.

Scotland--I bet we'd both love it but it seems a bit quiet and more the kind of trip I've want to take with a lover.

Portugal, Croatia, etc...

To be clear I'm not trying to say that any of these countries would be bad to go to, just that they may not be ideal for a half-family half-solo trip. Other places I want to visit, like Iceland and Alaska, won't offer the kind of swimming I want to do.

I'd also like to get a bit slutty on the back half. Like it's actually really important to me that I get to make out with random strangers and do something stupid and stumble home

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[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 11 points 6 months ago (2 children)

What part of this relates to self hosting?

[–] YawningNostalgia@thelemmy.club 3 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Thought it was where you can yap about yourself, is it not?

[–] Quique@lemmy.world 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] YawningNostalgia@thelemmy.club 8 points 6 months ago

Yeah I fucked up. Promise it wasn't on purpose I'm just sleep-deprived

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Clearly you didn't read the sidebar. You need to read side bars.

[–] YawningNostalgia@thelemmy.club 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Yup. I should be executed in the town square

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Nothing that dramatic. Just delete the post and use the right community.

[–] YawningNostalgia@thelemmy.club -5 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] YawningNostalgia@thelemmy.club -3 points 6 months ago

You need a massage babe

[–] ZeroCool@piefed.ca 1 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Self-hosting = planning your own vacation, obviously.

[–] YawningNostalgia@thelemmy.club 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Among other things.

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

is there a container for that?

[–] Auster@thebrainbin.org 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

docker compose up -d iceland ireland costa_rica new_zealand

[–] YawningNostalgia@thelemmy.club 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Kinda wanted to just have some people weigh in instead of using a tool. I can research it myself but I like it when people share anecdotes. I got lost though

[–] skankhunt42@lemmy.ca 2 points 6 months ago

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[–] Marzanna@scribe.disroot.org 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You must visit Uzbekistan!

[–] YawningNostalgia@thelemmy.club 1 points 6 months ago

I want to so bad! Are you from there

[–] greyscale@lemmy.grey.ooo 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

if you only have two weeks, pick one thing and do that one thing.

Don't try to do multiple cities, you just spend all your time and money in transit so you get to see the insides of transit hubs and not much culture.

[–] YawningNostalgia@thelemmy.club 1 points 6 months ago

I do like transit hubs but yeah. I think if we do Costa Rica we'll pick just one city because she's older and I don't want to drive much, and due to the length of her leg of the trip renting a car will be a pain. I certainly don't want her to drive lol.
I was thinking 3 days nice resort, 3 days sleeping rough-ish, so then she has time for the flights and then the rest will be just me and I can do anything by myself

[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Mainland China is actually quite nice. Only place I've been outside of the UK. Barring Poland ages ago... That being said, Poland is also nice.