Hannah Arendt (say what you will, but I fucks with her majorly) wrote a great essay called iirc: “Organized Guilt and Collective Responsibility” in which she discusses how the state intentionally drives a wedge between family life and civic duty, so that when the “small man” is finally frustrated by means of unemployment, he will turn to that last stage where he takes up any position — even that of hangman (paraphrased, albeit poorly).
Basically, the state wants you to prioritize your family — women and children first! — over all else, so the state can get away with the shit they do. The most radical thing a person can do is prioritize civic life (organizing) over their desire for family etc., etc.
It’s been a long time since I’ve read her, but all her work is worth a read imo — especially now.