It's true, it's also very disorienting for me when I encounter someone taller than me. It's not often that I have to look up at someone, so it feels VERY strange when I do.
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Indeed. I stopped going to general admission live music shows years and years ago, because no matter where I'd stand in the crowd, that's the spot that people would choose to force their way through to the bathroom, or bar, or to smoke, or wherever drunk people at a show go. (And go they do, the shifting around never lets up.) There's really only so much being elbowed in the side or shoved in the back constantly that one can take before it starts to feel personal.
Then I realized that when other people would scan the crowd for an opening, it'd seem like the spot where I stood was a good choice, because there was visually a gap. Above my head. Because I was usually the shortest man there. (Which is somewhat unusual for me, but the fact that it was always the case at shows should've been a hint.)
I did try to stand my ground a few times, but then just risked getting into fights with drunk people, and/or getting slapped with the bullshit Angry Short Man label. Best just not to go. Especially since I couldn't see the band anyway, what with the 6'6" guys who'd decide to stand up front.
So yeah, really tall people do see things differently, and if you see others as figuratively beneath you, or as invisible, well, I hope you have to sit in a coach seat for a flight to New Zealand.
I am 6'6'' and there has not been a time when I go grocery shopping that another customer or even an employee hasn't asked me to grab something off a high shelf for them.
Yet I have not once ever asked a short person to reach down and get something off a bottom shelf for me.
Weeeellll, you just need to crouch, the smaller person needs a stepping stool or ladder. One is logistically easier than the other by far.
My knees are fucked; if I crouch, there is a real chance Imma end up stuck that way.
The difference is that you can ask anyone to help you.
I can see the bald spot you're trying to hide.
And hear things differently! I am 192 (around 6'3) and I struggle to hear conversations between smaller people. especially in loud environments like in a bar. I have to slouch/bend down to them to hear what they say. Very unconfortable and I am self concious of intimidating anyone. Just awkward
I'm only 6'4", male. My experience is that I need to slouch in the presence of normies so as not to be to intimidating. I am weirded out by people who tower over me because that is unexpected and anyone that tall doesn't try to fit in - they just tower over all.
Another 6'4" chiming in (6'5" in shoes). It's weird to be walking in a crowd and needing to look up at someone. That always surprises me.
Imagine looking all the way up! I'm 6'6 and ran into someone in a country store. Such a strange feeling. And you can tell he didn't trust airpods to convey "don't talk to me" at that altitude, cause he was wearing headphones that looked big on him
I'm also 6'4” and I tell this to people all the time. Ever since I hung out with a professional basketball player for a weekend, it lives in the back of my mind rent free.
I'm only 6' or 6' 1.5" in the work boots they made me wear, 225 lbs +/-but one of my MSP tasks had me going to the practice facility for a local football team. Being surrounded by 7' 350 lb linebackers messed with my head for quite a while.
When in doubt (and if possible), keep your distance. You don't have to slouch as much and I don't have to look up as much.
Smaller people see lots of taller peoples nose hairs. I remember because before I was a taller people I was a smaller people.
I remember talking to a woman who was like 6'5". She said when she went to visit other couples, she'd often hear the woman yelp when they realized she could see the tops of the fridge and stuff, where lots of people don't dust.
You only need to be like 5'11" to see tops of fridges.
Depends on the size of your fridge.
Homie has one of those nice hotel mini fridges. You know the type with a separate freezer door, but no place for condiments on the door.
I'm 6'1", and I don't see the top of my fridge in any meaningful way.
Do you think all the conversations we're having are standing up within a foot of the other person? I'm usually sitting down and not looking at the top of your head. But it is time homie 🪒
My mother's husband was 6'9". Sadly he's shrinking in his old age. It annoys him.