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When you’re autistic and trying to flirt with someone who is also autistic
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Totally me.
this post was submitted on 03 Feb 2026
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My husband (who is autistic) will do or say something sexy at me, pause, then qualify it with “I’m flirting with you.”
A few days ago I pointed this out, and he said “well, just so my intentions are clear.”
Love that muppet.
I don't know if my anxiety would allow me to explicitly state that I'm flirting with someone. I may force myself to try that though.
I wish I could ask if they were flirting with me, but I'm pretty sure there are a lot of contexts where if I asked they'd say no because I asked even though the true answer was yes. And if the true answer actually was no, then they'd suddenly probably just become uncomfortable. Both results are just a loss.
I hate it.
EDIT: Just to clarify, I've gotten pretty OK at flirt detection, but it uses like 100% of my concentration and focus and its exhausting. Usually worth it though.
Wish I was this kind of autistic. But I just overthink it and say nothing then get frustrated.
Is that autistic? I do have autism but I think a lot women appreciate being upfront about intentions rather than those who beat around the bush, no pun intended