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When you’re autistic and trying to flirt with someone who is also autistic
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this post was submitted on 03 Feb 2026
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I don't know if my anxiety would allow me to explicitly state that I'm flirting with someone. I may force myself to try that though.
I wish I could ask if they were flirting with me, but I'm pretty sure there are a lot of contexts where if I asked they'd say no because I asked even though the true answer was yes. And if the true answer actually was no, then they'd suddenly probably just become uncomfortable. Both results are just a loss.
I hate it.
EDIT: Just to clarify, I've gotten pretty OK at flirt detection, but it uses like 100% of my concentration and focus and its exhausting. Usually worth it though.
I've figured out just be you, let the autism flow.
If she's into you, it will flow from her too.
Don't try to process it just observe, and let the two neurospicy streams swirl together. There will be a point where there are no questions and everything just happens.