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A good friend of mine moved away 10 years ago.

Where I am from it's only a 3 hour drive cause we never meet at his place but some neutral location between where he lives and where "we" live. With "we" I am refering to my friend group and his friend group but we didn't move away.

Nothing wrong actually so far, just a few things have changed drastically.

We are all now 30 years old, he still invites us every year and it's always the same. He is a cool person, but he has absolutely 0 hobbies. And since I am into gym since 3 years it's the hardest time for me cause we always end up in the middle of NOWHERE and the only thing to do is get drunk and try to get those 3 days over with.

He doesn't drink and I am also limiting it. But we have absolutely NOTHING to do and everything I suggest gets rejected cause my and his current friend group are "drinkers", they can just drink the whole weekend and call it a weekend.

In 6 weeks we are driving to this location for 3 days (2 nights) and I already know just by looking at google maps it's gonna get boring if I don't drink.

The closest gym is 60 minutes away, and why would I go to the gym if Im with my friends? They don't like climbing, so bouldering is not a thing. They hate spas, so going to swim is also not gonna happen.

I think Im the only one who can snowboard but honestly I dont want to go snowboarding cause I have a flight end of february to thailand and dont want to risk breaking something.

I feel bad becaus he is a nice dude but we have absolutely nothing in common anymore. And our friendgroup is still just drinking alcohol which I am trying to avoid since a few years.

The last time we went shopping for grocery for about 4 hours (wtf...) and never left the house those 3 days and just got drunk and cooked all day.

It was super awkward. Especially for me, since I am not a huge fan of groups and I always have to "use the bathroom" to get some space. The worst thing for me is having no space, since its shared rooms and the only way to escape is to either take a sh.it or shower which I obviously cant do all day.

Dunno what to do.

Last year I dodged it by really being sick and the year before I was in Sri Lanka.

They are actually all nice people, but I just thinking of playing Uno, Monopoly, drinking, cooking, or walking through the middle of nowhere with a beer in my hand makes me want to cry.

At home I could atleast go to the gym, play my video games, not waste my money on this location and food I dont want to eat.

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[–] bleistift2@sopuli.xyz 11 points 3 weeks ago

There are board games that don’t suck. For a party of adults I’d suggest looking into something like Cards Against Humanity, Codenames, Secret Hitler, maybe Junta. (Disclaimer: Haven’t played Junta) or maybe the classic Settlers of Catan.

If you’re in your thirties, how about a LAN party playing classics like Age of Empires? Old games can be played on laptops nowadays, so no setting up lots of hardware.

You also don’t need to be there for the full weekend. Show up on day two and leave in the evening (that means 6 hours of driving on the same day, so maybe spend the night).