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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 21 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 13 points 3 days ago

in some ways yes, and other ways no

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

So you had unfinished business?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 29 points 3 days ago (1 children)

apparently not since I can't get a job 😑

[–] BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Oh shit, at least you learned how to craft an epic comeback.

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

ha, certainly not epic...yet?

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

This is how come you're back! You can't become a ghost with un-begun business, this isn't a Pratchett novel. Time to get some business started.

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] yakko@feddit.uk 9 points 3 days ago (2 children)

You're the one who died, make up some shit about what you saw, start a cult, sell a book, trick some fuckers. You're not gonna have much unfinished business selling hotdogs and beers on the beach. Weirdest ghost ever, oooOOOooo, I need to finish pouring your caipirinhaaaaa

[–] Tuuktuuk@piefed.ee 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Maybe he accepted the money, brought it to a safe elsewhere but nearby, and was planning to make the hotdog only once he's back at his hot dog booth? Your selling the hotdog is unfinished and as long as the customer doesn't get their hotdog, you're gonna stay a ghost.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 1 points 2 days ago

See now we're getting that book written. I like it

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

wtf? This person could sell hotdogs on the beach and write a best seller about people they meet, or meet the executive director that's going to make them a star. Even if not, who cares as long as they're happy doing it and it pays the bills?

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This entire comment chain was jokes. It's not clear that we're on the same page about that?

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] yakko@feddit.uk 1 points 2 days ago

You're good, thanks for being chill about it.

[–] TootSweet@lemmy.world 15 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Do you have more, less, or the same amount of existential dread since?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 20 points 3 days ago

hmm, I'm not really happy with my life before or after, but I am less afraid of death, and as a result I have a lower toloramce for suffering, because suffering is much worse than death (for me)

[–] coaxil@lemmy.zip 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

What happened to cause the dieing?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

brain electrical shortage

[–] trolololol@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

How is your ghost afterlife going?

Oh sorry to assume you're a ghost. Zombie maybe?

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Did you have a near-death experience or anything similar?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 25 points 3 days ago (1 children)

it was basically the same as your experience of the year 1392 ; its not like you can't remember, or it was scary, or there was some glowing light.

for me ; it didn't exist

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Honestly sounds kinda nice as long as the going is peaceful. Like I'm not suicidal and I'm on an upswing right now but it still genuinely sounds nice. Thanks for sharing. Have a happy new year.

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I don't know that I'd describe it as nice, but it certainly seems silly to be literally afraid of nothing

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I mean I think the fear of death is really a function of fear of the unknown. Like I know a person IRL who had a near-death experience where she died for a few minutes and she basically said the same thing, i.e. I have some evidence to back up my suspicion that it's "nothing", but I think that people practically being able to resuscitated is kinda recent in human history? So I absolutely do understand how people can be afraid of death when they have absolutely no evidence to suspect that there's no afterlife or anything else we've conjectured about death.

[–] Croquette@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago

Fear of death is a survival instinct first and foremost I think.

If you don't care if you die, chance of dying grow. And, as you said, fear of the unknown adds to that.

I don't believe in the afterlife, but some people have near death experience, some people don't. Who's right? We won't know until it's our turn to die.

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

How would you rate being dead, out of 10?

[–] santa@sh.itjust.works 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 13 points 3 days ago

nonexistant

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago (2 children)

You and me both, brother, but mine was January, 2024.

Had my 2nd heart attack in an emergency room, in the middle of a snow and ice storm, as the power goes out.

"OK, you need a stent, but we can't do that here, we have to get you to a different hospital and the ambulance can't get here because of the snow and ice. It's coming."

Ambulance doesn't come. I wake up at 6 AM and am fiddling with my phone, nurse comes in.

"Were you asleep about an hour ago?"

"Yeah, why?"

"Your heart stopped for 8 seconds."

". . . Um, 'thank you'? I don't know the correct response to 'your heart stopped for 8 seconds'."

[–] calliope@retrolemmy.com 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I think the correct response is “oh, ok. Thanks for letting me know!”

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Yeah, I have an implanted heart monitor now that talks to my phone, it sends a signal back to the docs if anything goes wrong.

My heart has stopped a couple other times, nothing as dramatic as 8 seconds, 4 or 5 seconds here and there. Doc says not to worry as long as it only happens when I'm sleeping and I'm like "Dude! How am I supposed to sleep now?"

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

crazy story. an EMT was telling me once how he came to an old guys house bc his wife called, and when he got there he was dead. bright him back with drugs and CPR.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Okay so when is your resurrection party?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I think it was early April, I'll let you organize the party 😉

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 1 points 2 days ago

It better have lots of chocolate, I wouldn't bother organizing otherwise

[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

How did the hospital staff handle explaining what happened?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

they just wanted to give me brain deadening drugs and send me home bc by the time I got there I was fine

they don't really care how something happens bc that's not how they get paid.

[–] can@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

What purpose do you suppose I serve in your purgatory?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

you "can" serve any purpose you want there

[–] Tuuktuuk@piefed.ee 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

just dropped dead

[–] cholesterol@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What do you mean you 'died'? What actually happened, causing you to say that?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

no breathing, no heartbeat, no movement, no brain activity, greying-blueing skin, for an extended period of time 😎

edit: oh and I dropped-dead from a standing position.