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[–] Tuuktuuk@piefed.ee 1 points 8 hours ago (1 children)
[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 1 points 30 minutes ago

just dropped dead

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

in some ways yes, and other ways no

[–] cholesterol@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

What do you mean you 'died'? What actually happened, causing you to say that?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 3 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

no breathing, no heartbeat, no movement, no brain activity, greying-blueing skin, for an extended period of time 😎

edit: oh and I dropped-dead from a standing position.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

So you had unfinished business?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

apparently not since I can't get a job 😑

[–] BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oh shit, at least you learned how to craft an epic comeback.

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

ha, certainly not epic...yet?

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is how come you're back! You can't become a ghost with un-begun business, this isn't a Pratchett novel. Time to get some business started.

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] yakko@feddit.uk 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

You're the one who died, make up some shit about what you saw, start a cult, sell a book, trick some fuckers. You're not gonna have much unfinished business selling hotdogs and beers on the beach. Weirdest ghost ever, oooOOOooo, I need to finish pouring your caipirinhaaaaa

[–] Tuuktuuk@piefed.ee 2 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Maybe he accepted the money, brought it to a safe elsewhere but nearby, and was planning to make the hotdog only once he's back at his hot dog booth? Your selling the hotdog is unfinished and as long as the customer doesn't get their hotdog, you're gonna stay a ghost.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 1 points 33 minutes ago

See now we're getting that book written. I like it

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

wtf? This person could sell hotdogs on the beach and write a best seller about people they meet, or meet the executive director that's going to make them a star. Even if not, who cares as long as they're happy doing it and it pays the bills?

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

This entire comment chain was jokes. It's not clear that we're on the same page about that?

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[–] yakko@feddit.uk 1 points 11 hours ago

You're good, thanks for being chill about it.

[–] TootSweet@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Do you have more, less, or the same amount of existential dread since?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 20 points 1 day ago

hmm, I'm not really happy with my life before or after, but I am less afraid of death, and as a result I have a lower toloramce for suffering, because suffering is much worse than death (for me)

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 8 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

You and me both, brother, but mine was January, 2024.

Had my 2nd heart attack in an emergency room, in the middle of a snow and ice storm, as the power goes out.

"OK, you need a stent, but we can't do that here, we have to get you to a different hospital and the ambulance can't get here because of the snow and ice. It's coming."

Ambulance doesn't come. I wake up at 6 AM and am fiddling with my phone, nurse comes in.

"Were you asleep about an hour ago?"

"Yeah, why?"

"Your heart stopped for 8 seconds."

". . . Um, 'thank you'? I don't know the correct response to 'your heart stopped for 8 seconds'."

[–] calliope@retrolemmy.com 6 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I think the correct response is “oh, ok. Thanks for letting me know!”

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago

Yeah, I have an implanted heart monitor now that talks to my phone, it sends a signal back to the docs if anything goes wrong.

My heart has stopped a couple other times, nothing as dramatic as 8 seconds, 4 or 5 seconds here and there. Doc says not to worry as long as it only happens when I'm sleeping and I'm like "Dude! How am I supposed to sleep now?"

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 3 points 14 hours ago

crazy story. an EMT was telling me once how he came to an old guys house bc his wife called, and when he got there he was dead. bright him back with drugs and CPR.

[–] coaxil@lemmy.zip 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What happened to cause the dieing?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago

brain electrical shortage

[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 5 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

How did the hospital staff handle explaining what happened?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

they just wanted to give me brain deadening drugs and send me home bc by the time I got there I was fine

they don't really care how something happens bc that's not how they get paid.

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Did you have a near-death experience or anything similar?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 24 points 1 day ago (1 children)

it was basically the same as your experience of the year 1392 ; its not like you can't remember, or it was scary, or there was some glowing light.

for me ; it didn't exist

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Honestly sounds kinda nice as long as the going is peaceful. Like I'm not suicidal and I'm on an upswing right now but it still genuinely sounds nice. Thanks for sharing. Have a happy new year.

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't know that I'd describe it as nice, but it certainly seems silly to be literally afraid of nothing

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I mean I think the fear of death is really a function of fear of the unknown. Like I know a person IRL who had a near-death experience where she died for a few minutes and she basically said the same thing, i.e. I have some evidence to back up my suspicion that it's "nothing", but I think that people practically being able to resuscitated is kinda recent in human history? So I absolutely do understand how people can be afraid of death when they have absolutely no evidence to suspect that there's no afterlife or anything else we've conjectured about death.

[–] Croquette@sh.itjust.works 4 points 16 hours ago

Fear of death is a survival instinct first and foremost I think.

If you don't care if you die, chance of dying grow. And, as you said, fear of the unknown adds to that.

I don't believe in the afterlife, but some people have near death experience, some people don't. Who's right? We won't know until it's our turn to die.

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

How would you rate being dead, out of 10?

[–] santa@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

nonexistant

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Okay so when is your resurrection party?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 3 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I think it was early April, I'll let you organize the party 😉

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 1 points 4 hours ago

It better have lots of chocolate, I wouldn't bother organizing otherwise

[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] can@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What purpose do you suppose I serve in your purgatory?

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

you "can" serve any purpose you want there