That was me this year. I had no idea my wife had been buying so much stuff.
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And she likes to keep it that way.
Yeah, she likes it, of course. My idea of Christmas shopping is watching the Aisle of Shame in Aldi, and when I see something interesting, I buy a few for gifts. If you need stockings stuffed, I'm your guy.
I saw a mop with the spinner bucket at my local Aldi and bought it as a gift for my sister
I bought gloves, socks, underwear, toys, all kinds of stuff. I always buy up a bunch of their greeting cards, whenever they have them. Cards that would be $10 anywhere else, are like $1.50.
Are dads still like that? The young dads I know are pretty involved in their children's lives
My wife went out Christmas shopping while I took my toddler to go play in the snow.
Separating responsibilities is functional, I don't understand the negatives here.
I think its more referencing the dads who are entirely uninvolved untrained the their kids lives whatsoever to the point they don't even participate in any Christmas planning or prep for the family.
Not your specific situation.
I feel like people assume parenting is everyone doing everything.
As a dad, I cook and clean. I wash dishes. I organize.
My wife wash clothes, fixes things around the house, and shops for goods.
So yeah, she buys all the presents, because she loves doing it. I'm making Christmas breakfast and dinner, because that's my thing. We can do both.
All dads I know including myself are the opposite. They do all the shopping and wrapping.
Yep, dad here, can confirm and get tired of these tired old jokes. Such a boomer joke
I wrapped for two different families, including mine, this year. My wife works super hard, and this is something I can do to help.
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My wife did basically all the shopping and wrapping.
But i drove across the state christmas eve to pick up the kitten and hid it for hours. And built all the things that needed to be assembled. I was up til about one while she was in bed by 9. Then the stuff that wasnt from santa was built today.
Each parent doesnt need to be involved in everything to still be involved.
hid it for hours
Sounds like pure hell ;)
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I did basically all the gift shopping this year and set up all the Santa stuff with the help of one of my older kids as my wife was knackered yesterday.
Other years my wife has done the bulk of the shopping and we usually do the setup together. There's no structure to who does the shopping I suppose, it's more whoever has the time or energy any given year.
Some people are like that.
dad bad is the new wife bad.
Yeah my ex came over for 30 minutes to watch the unwrapping and took one bag of trash with him on the way out the door. I did absolutely everything else.
Makes sense that he's your ex
Oh absolutely, lol. Ten years and nothing has changed. Good news is the kiddo is understanding this is not how we should treat those we say we love, hence I doubt he will get too many more invites.
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Theres millions of people so theres bound to be all kinds
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I bought and wrapped presents that I'd forgotten what they were. Christmas was a wild one this year for me.
Wow, lot of shitting on this guy... You know it just works for some families. Doesn't make dad a deadbeat if he's doing other stuff.
I mean, Dad was watching the kids while Mom did the shopping? sounds like a functional and healthy family to me.
People want excuses to shit on fathers.
No offense taken, as a dad.
My wife LOVES shopping for the kids and finding deals. I love helping the kids figure out what they want, and translating it to my wife.
It's a partnership.
My wife is unemployed and loves doing gift stuff including wrapping. Even constantly asking if I want them to wrap their gifts for themself lol. I think some folks just see this without having loved it and assume it's bad. The reality is couples split their chores. My wife doesn't help me with yard work, even while unemployed, does it make them a deadbeat? No. That's just not how we split the chores.
Dad worked. One day in the lean years he was on the books for 5 employers at the same time: no overlapping shifts, just a hairy schedule on a paper calendar and more than one job-to-job commute.
We do not castigate dad for devoting his entire life to the household.
Mom, who merely had one full-timer, did the shopping and wrapping on the side. The two of them set up a wonderful Christmas day together with very few gifts and resources, and we were all together on Christmas morn before Dad went to work.
It worked. We didn't lack for joy.
My wife enjoys Christmas shopping, wrapping and decorating. I do not. I am happy to offer opinions and thoughts when she asks for them. I am happy to cook, clean, work and entertain. It works and honestly, if I forget what's under the tree it feels like a vicarious adventure for me. I see no reason to believe that there's anything wrong with making Christmas work.
Plot twist, Dad believes in Santa to this day because he knows he didn't buy the presents.
My favorite take in this thread
When my son stopped believing in Santa dad was able to convince him that HE still believed in Santa. Keeping the traditions alive for a couple more years
If Santa isn't real then who ate the cookies?
In my defense, while my wife shopped and wrapped I was on toddler wrangling duty XD
I'd like to virtual cheers all of the men out there who bought thoughtful gifts and made someone happy this season. Merry Christmas!
ALERT: THIS IS SANTA DENIER CONSPIRACY PROPAGANDA!! SANTA CLAUS PUT THE PRESENTS THERE, NOT THE MOTHER
My dad earned the money, my mom spent it. That worked for them, there were no complaints.
OTH, they were born during the Great Depression, and were both very frugal. Neither of them liked to spend money. As the fourth of four kids, most of my clothes and toys were hand-me-downs, and my mom made my clothes until I hit puberty, as well as making most of her own clothes her whole life. I don't have any complaints either. Both of my parents loved their kids unconditionally, I grew up in a warm, and mostly happy family.
My wife did all the shopping but I drove to 4 different pet stores across the county hunting for guinea pigs on Xmas eve, got two, hid them at my office in their little temp set up, then went back at midnight and brought them home.
Wife's idea but damn did I make that shit happen lol.
She's the best tho, I got her a knock off roomba to try to make her life easier. Hope it works well. Kids are stoked on the piggies.
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I am indeed into this sort of thing, thanks for the share!
I buy throughout the year whenever I see something I know they will like. By Christmas, I forget what I've bought and wrapped.
This year, I asked my girlfriend if she will want something and tell her I'll hold onto it until Christmas. Buy it with her, and then by the time she gets it, she's forgotten. I did that with a bracelet that said "Mom" on it during the summer, that I would put her daughters name as the from so that she gets something from her daughter. I always try to buy something to be "from" her daughter. It is really nice for her daughter too, to have that experience "giving" something on Christmas too.
I sat with her daughter the other night making bracelets for her to give out at our family Christmas party and the first one we made was for her to give to her biological Dad when she goes with him in a few days.
Uhh I'm the one that fills the stockings so I get to act surprised by the shit I put in there 3 hours prior. Would be neat if someone else ever put something in mine, but not happened yet.
Everything I read about Christmas seems terrible and I'm so glad I don't have to do it
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