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10yo: “Why doesn’t anyone listen to me?”
12yo: “Ah they just don’t listen to me because I’m a little kid”
14yo: “Ah they just don’t understand because I didn’t give enough evidence”
16yo: “They don’t listen to evidence because they spent their lives in this tiny religious town, the rest of the world is better”
18yo: “…I don’t want to live on this planet anymore”
Hey get out of my head
They looked at me like a hot piece of french toast when I told the interviewer I enjoyed writing documentation at my last job.
Honestly i would assume you
Edit: i meant "hire" not "assume" i am gonna keep the error because it's funny
For those who are confused by this post, "assumere" means "to hire" in Italian
I feel so stupid for using "assume" instead of "hire"
Self note: never write something in english as soon as i wake up
Eh it happens, especially once om you write confidently without paying too much attention
I kinda became infamous for my in-depth documentation.
It only helped that I had technical documentation lessons prior to my job and (kinda) knew how to write for a specific target audience (e.g. amateur, pro, expert)
technical documentation lessons
Not gonna lie, that sounds interesting
Incredibly dry.
Remember those are the reasons why your manuals read like they do :p
But besides that: Very useful.
Okay, but you have to consider the audience here. :P
Maybe certain people would consider it dry, but a professional and systematic understanding the motivations of the human condition and how to communicate with various kinds of people is the bread and butter for folks who don’t (necessarily) intuitively understand it, and are thus forced to make an amateur effort to understand the motivations and communication styles of people.
This is what I call "Aspiesplaining". I do this way too often and it's nearly cost me my marriage. But damn, it just seems so natural.
My wife gets overwhelmed easily and shuts down (ADHD, likely AuADHD). Irrespective of ADHD (diagnosed) or any other undiagnosed conditions, I also have trauma that manifests as an insecure attachment style, I both try to explain harder and seek bids for connection/reassurance while she’s increasingly disassociating/internally panicking.
We love each other fiercely, but it took a lot of self-work and the (ever-ongoing) development of coping skills to figure out how to identify, let alone avoid, that trap. It’s a real challenge for us both.
No idea if the above is relatable, but I feel you on the over-explaining.
Thank you for sharing. I can relate.
I'm fortunate that we've been together for nearly 20 years. It has taken work, but recognizing the pattern been a key insight.
Why all these posts say neurodivergent like if all the neurodivergences are the same?
neuroconvergence, you say?
Lmao
Because we don't have better words. We're different, in probably 5 different ways, but there's only one word for it
It is necessary that my normal and natural behavior is recontextualized as a special struggle and adversity, because adversity and being in a minority group is the root of all personal goodness. Therefore neurodivergence is simultaneously something to be proud of but also a great struggle that makes me an extra brave warrior vs inferior normal people who definitely never do any of these things that me and thousands of other people here upvote.
Sarcasm aside, I totally support being accepting and equitable to neurodivergent people and other minority groups. I just think it's pretty gross and annoying when social media gets all doing shit like "zomggg this misplaced tile on the bathroom floor is triggering my OCD I'm so OCD u guysss", like no. Everyone is bothered by the misplaced tile. And don't hit me with "it's a spectrum". Yeah, it's a spectrum, and part of that spectrum is what's considered neurotypical. There was a point when people finally realized that calling themselves OCD at the drop of a hat was actually sort of disrespectful to actual OCD people, and I wish the internet would come to the same realization about this new trend of calling everything they do neurodivergent. Some people have never hung out with an extremely autistic person and it shows. It's not some silly quirky shit. It's definitely not you trying to explain things to people because you believe that will improve things. Just about everyone I know does that, it does not make you especially adverse/good/cool/unique/disadvantaged/whatever other weird accolade you associate with being neurodivergent. In fact the most autistic person I know makes the least attempts to explain anything to anyone.
I thought it was the opposite? I'm so tired of people explaining things to me like the thing that's holding me back is a lack of knowledge or understanding.
That can also just be your annoying narcissism.