a lot of people don't wanna have this discussion because at face value it reads too much like saying being trans is a mental illness but
the #1 predictor of the development of a cluster b personality disorder (such as borderline, which is famous for this kind of behavior) is a consistently inconsistent pattern of emotional invalidation throughout early and middle childhood. So there are times where mom / dad / primary caregiver said "oh no! that's terrible. Here's how I deal with being upset by that" but there were other times they were like "no that's dumb and weird nobody normal feels like that you should just stop feeling that way." and that pattern continues on-and-off some things being validated some things not being validated over that extended period.
...and that basically just describes the experience of being being raised in a social environment that's hostile to their lived experiences as a trans child. That plus all the community elders getting picked off by AIDS means there's limited healthy emotional adjustment within the lgbt subculture as well.
TLDR - no shit they all act fucking feral there's a massive shortage of healthy and supportive social structures.
