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(obviously it's ok that this user got banned, it's just the switch2boycott/andjusticeforall/basedball or whatever person who has said transphobic things in the past, that's not my point)

In the post in question, there was never any indication that the girlfriend character was not a girl, and I hope that the Hexbear mod team can at least recognize that it's possible for a person to both be a girl and nonbinary at the same time.

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[–] DoomBloomDialectic@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (1 children)

justice for she/they's and they/she's rosa-salute

it's funny cuz i literally just saw a "nonbinary gf" site tagline, which i assume was taken from an old DayOfDoom/Switch2 bit

[–] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Also, while it's probably true that most people who identify as non-binary and also as a woman or girl use she/they or they/she pronouns, you could literally use he/him pronouns (or any other) and still identify as both. The whole point here is that there aren't really rules about how someone can feel about their gender.

[–] DoomBloomDialectic@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

no you're totally right. as a NB i jokingly call myself a "he/they" or a they as a tongue-in-cheek shorthand for identity (so do a lot of my NB friends w/ their own pronouns) but pronouns =/= gender identity

[–] Lyudmila@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

My wife and I are both women and non-binary so it's definitely possible

hexbear-non-binary hexbear-lesbian hexbear-intersex

Yeah honestly people can use all sorts of labels, and I don't think it makes sense to assume any given label is misgendering just because they're being applied to someone who is non-binary. My partner is non binary but still identifies as a mom, for example.

[–] WellTheresYourCobbler@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Basedball

Man has it been a minute since I’ve heard that name

[–] Cat_Daddy@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Fucking right? I had the same reaction.

[–] 30_to_50_Feral_PAWGs@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Based on some of the struggle sesh bait that keeps cropping up, I doubt they ever left.

[–] Cat_Daddy@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

Probably was the one the other day about why we don't have an israel-cool emoji

[–] LeylaLove@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago

Agreed, I have 2 non-binary partners right now, one likes being called my girlfriend the other prefers the term partner. The bit itself is bad, but the poster used she/they pronouns for this fictional person, girlfriend isn't necessarily misgendering

[–] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Cat_Daddy@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

Implement all the interfaces

[–] RNAi@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago

Union types etc etc

[–] ProfessorOwl_PhD@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I don't think you're entirely wrong, but to me it came across as them ignoring a non-binary partner's gender rather than the partner being a non-binary girl, especially with them only referring to the partner as "she"

[–] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

The post used "them" in the second paragraph, though.