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mfw I start self-diagnosing in middle age (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world

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Yes im fixating on Elden Ring atm and yes that helped

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[–] UKFilmNerd@feddit.uk 12 points 9 months ago

Yeah, both my kids are different levels of autistic but it wasn't until my wife pointed out that I was too, it all suddenly clicked into place.

For reference, I would've been about 47 when this happened, a couple of years ago.

[–] Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de 11 points 9 months ago

Yeah its a weird feeling. A mix of relief that things sort of make sense, bewilderment that I've gone decades wearing masks and stimming without realizing it, frustration, trepidation, other SAT words. Plus some suspicions about other kids I grew up with...

[–] Idreamofcheesy@lemmy.world 5 points 9 months ago

Lol same boat. It clicked a couple years ago. My wife thought I should get diagnosed for a while, but why?

I'll still wear my headphones when I need to, ask for space when I need to, and masking up whenever I leave the house (and honestly around my kids. They're young and my son often asks why I'm mad if I'm not purposefully projecting my emotions).

[+] the_q@lemmy.zip 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

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[–] Senal@programming.dev 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

From what I've been told over the years by various different head people, the overlap between the outward symptoms of cptsd and autism is somewhat large.

The underlying causes are usually very different, but the expression has enough overlap that they always check for cptsd markers and questions.

In my anecdotal experience, of course.

It's also entirely possible to have both, which makes it even more complex.

[–] MelodiousFunk@slrpnk.net 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Watching my friends' kid and my nephew grow up... yeah, a lot of light bulbs went on.

[–] A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

It took me a while. I watched a friend raise an autistic kid for years and went none the wiser.

Like a dingus.

Then I learned more... and remembered more...

[–] MelodiousFunk@slrpnk.net 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Eh, "dingus" is just being hard on yourself. None of us are pros, and most of us are left to connect dots on our own while struggling daily with a world designed for NTs. Self discovery is a journey... though it would've been really nice to have had someone point out important landmarks on the way.

[–] A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

Thanks 💜

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

totally thought I would hate elden ring. thought I would play a bit. get annoyed at dying all the time and stop playing. played to the end of both the main game and the dlc. have not started a new playththrough at level 2 or whatever.

[–] A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Man I've tried these games for years and it just finally clicked. Same as you, im about 1/3 through Erdtree but Nightreign is... addictive. I haven't started NG+ yet either

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

well admitadely I relied heavily on searches of elden rings cheese

[–] A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago

I only attempted to cheese Commander Niall but I wasn't spec'd for Dex yet so I gave up and did it normally... eventually

I totally used Ashes to learn the fights tho. And now Mimic is so good I can let him crutch lol

[–] noctivius@lemm.ee 1 points 9 months ago

i dont get it