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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Intelagent9r7 on 2023-07-27 13:17:40+00:00.

This is my first post on here so please forgive me for any mistakes, basiclly, there was this girl that chatted me. We hit it off but around Feb I found out some not so good things about her. I did think about it but I realized how much of a red flag she was so I decided to just avoid her. Apparently during this she got into a spiral of not being able to move on. This girl was not giving up even when I showed alot of signs. She even ended up blocking me only to unblock me for 'not being able to handle it'. She started chatting some of my friends but I asked them all to please dont give away info. Here comes the main topic, one of my friends, lets call him Ben, we have been friends for about 3 years now, she started to contact Ben about me and he was updating her. When I found out I told Ben about the issue and to please stop updating her, he agreed and apologized. Not gonna lie I probobly told him too much about the reason I didnt want him updating her, but Ben still took screenshots of what I told him and sent it to her. This obviously made things way worse with her. I ended up confronting him about it but he didnt admit it. I ended up distancing myself from him online and in person but I dont think he got the hit. Since he was still updating her I ended up telling his mom and thankfully, she snapped him out of it. He did apologize to me and told me to 'Please dont tell my mom next time' but in all honesty, how was I going to be sure he wouldnt screenshot what I told him and send it to her. Me and Ben are on good terms but its not the same as before. I was honestly really hurt cause I felt like he chose a girl he barely knew over me. Keep in mind we are still in highschool. What are your thoughts on this? Would love to read them. Thank you!