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Do people ask each other out or do they just hang out?

So... Over the phone doesn't count? Texting doesn't count? Email? Those don't count? I would think that in this day and age texting would be the normal way to ask a girl out for a first date.

You know it's REALLY hard for someone not super social to ask a girl out in person. I'm 50 and i think I've never asked a girl out for a first date in person.... But then again, I am an introverted nerd so that's probably to be expected. Hell, I asked the girl I ended up marrying out over email....

Speed dating is dumb anyway

if bars are empty that's because you live in a weird suburb

I usually get people asking for my number or socials when they're interested, asking out tends to happen over electronic communication after that.

My process is basically

1. Casual conversation- if you don't hit it off naturally here, let it go.
2. Reciprocal flirting
3. Exchange contact info
4. Develop friendship
5. Ask out directly
6. ???
7. Go back to 1

I also get told I'm very attractive in various verbage near daily so 🤷‍♀️

Idk, just be respectful and don't be pushy if they're trying to let you down (and pay attention for if they're trying to do it gently)

The difference is that primarily one of these parties will possibly suffer the consequences of both social perception and legal action while the other will not. If all possible attempts to advance or approach carry disproportionate amounts of risk, then it is foolish to knowingly progress without an obvious opportunity.