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Coping with humor (startrek.website)

submitted 2 years ago by Naura@startrek.website to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world

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Anyone else cope with their mental health by joking about it?

My childhood was so absurd I just can't be serious about it.

I take so many meds when my pharmacist asked me why I take two meds that do the same thing I told him that "that's just how much my brain is ~~f***ed ~~ messed up". He didn't appreciate it.

my spouse tells me that people usually don't like it when you do that and that's why I have trouble making friends.

Can anyone relate?

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[–] yogurtwrong@lemmy.world 13 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

The term "dark humor" has lost its real meaning and nowadays everyone thinks dark humor is just laughing at the frowned upon

As opposed to what edgy teenagers say, "dark humor" is the parody of suffering and it's not meant to be offensive. It's like laughing when you get so infuriated

I have ADHD-C and sometimes my family says "Here, your grandpa pills" while giving me my medication. And I occasionally refer to my medication as "government issued meth"

So no I don't think this is coping. The thing you just experienced is just genuine dark humor

[–] Zozano@aussie.zone 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I call my ADHD pills something far worse. I take Vyvanse 70mg, which are half-pink half-blue (in Australia).

Full disclosure, I'm a trans ally and I would never use derogatory language sincerely or in public. When I'm with my mates we call my meds tranny pills and joke that they help me clean the dishes.

I'm aware that tranny is a derogatory term, and it's sexist to imply washing dishes is a woman's job.

[–] Jardthebard@lemmy.world 10 points 2 years ago

I'm able to tell my partner is depressed when she starts cracking jokes left and right. It's the best indicator I have to see she's having a rough day.

[–] platysalty@kbin.social 9 points 2 years ago

I'd be long dead if I couldn't laugh at my problems.

Shit still sucks, but at least I get to make shitty jokes to my friends

[–] PurpleBadger9@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Absolutely. I get ECT treatments, where they use electricity to induce a seizure. When you're seizing, usually the only thing that moves is your toes. So what do I do, when my trratment happens to fall on April Fools Day? Superglue googly eyes to my toes so they boggle around as I twitch 👀👁👀👁👀 On normal days I wear goofy socks, usually matching some kind of theme for the nearest holiday or season.

I also brought in a Pikachu sticker to try and put on the ECT machine. I couldn't get away with that, but they did let me put it on the equipment bin that goes along with the machine and the cart it's on. It lightens the mood a bit.

[–] Zerlyna@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I have always wondered about ECT. I have horrific images in my head about it. (70’s/80’s child). I’ve heard it’s much better now? If it’s one less med in my body… 🧐

[–] PurpleBadger9@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Modern ECT is nothing like the movies. You're under general anesthesia so you're unconscious for the whole thing, and they use a paralytic to make sure you don't convulse and hurt yourself. For my treatments, I usually arrive at the hospital early in the morning and I'm home by lunch time

[–] Naura@startrek.website 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Have you heard about the awesome sock club from the vlogbrothers? Sign up is currently open. They send one pair every month and the profit goes to a great cause.

https://awesomesocks.club/

Oh and fuck yea googly eyes!

[–] Naura@startrek.website 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Have you heard about the awesome sock club from the vlogbrothers? Sign up is currently open. They send one pair every month

https://awesomesocks.club/

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm basically Robin Williams, but not famous.

[–] Deez@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

I hope things get a bit easier for you.

[–] Diprount_Tomato@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

Damn I fucking love dark humor

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

I appreciate your humor. If I was the pharmacist, I'd understand your joke and I'd chuckle. People are diverse though, not everyone's going to find the same things funny. Don't let your girlfriend discourage you from joking around, it's a nice thing to find a little fun in your life.

[–] ZenGrammy@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

I definitely do it, and my friends love that about me. You just have to find the right people, who get your jokes. One of my favorite things about my friendships is being able to joke like this together and have it never feel strange. Maybe strangers won't like it or maybe they will. If they do, they are a potential friend. That's how I look at it.

[–] evanunitone@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

Oh absolutely. Between my mental health issues and physical health problems, my sense of humor is pretty twisted and morbid. IMO you just need to find the kinda people that vibe with that humor.

[–] 108beads@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

If ya can't laugh AT me, please laugh WITH me!

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Your pharmacist is looking out for you. If I was prescribed two of the same class of painkiller I would expect them to do the same; responding "that's just how my body is" wouldn't really make any sense.

[–] Zerlyna@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

My therapist calls it Living By Chemistry. Between my PCP (3), Psych (3) and Gyn (2) I have 8 meds.

[–] Naura@startrek.website 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Oh wow, do you mind if i start using that?

[–] Zerlyna@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Not at all. 🤣😁