the real solution is that individuals shouldn't be solely responsible for raising children, children should be raised collectively by at least like 5 people and ideally more like 50..

think about how kids would grow up in the past, they might not even be with their parents most of the time! Running around the village or local neighbourhood, staying at their friends' house, buying groceries for old lady Stephens (who is effectively everyone's grandmother) since she's too old to walk to the store and then being treated to her homemade pastries, etc etc

humans just aren't made to raise kids on their own, we're made to share the responsibility so the kids can actually get all the attention they need, and they can get varied perspectives and knowledge.