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My gf gaining weight is stressing her out
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Have you ever been/been with an insecure person? Rational or not, switching your message from "you're fine the way you are" to "let's try going for walks" is liable to cause their insecurities to go into overdrive thinking you secretly do mind, and do think they need to lose weight, and I'm not sure any amount of prefacing and reassurances can negate that effect if she.
If she were able and willing to make time to exercise, then absolutely, be supportive, but suggesting it outright might be something to be careful about or avoid depending on the person. I think that's the key, we don't know this person as well as OP does, maybe she'd be receptive to that, or maybe they absolutely don't have time, or that suggestion would worsen her stress.
Maybe that's true. People can be insecure about certain aspects of their life, body, career, or whatever and not be insecure and unstable overall. I wasn't going to jump to conclusions about the person's partner.