You gotta live in the world that exists, not the one you wish for.

But also, you gotta strive for the world you wish for while living in the one that exists.

There's a big gray area between "being an asshole" and "refusing to constantly eat other people's shit", and a lot of what's acceptable to ask for is merely what's in vogue rather than what's needed.

I have a middle aged cousin with severe, untreated autism and he had to learn to live alone, get a job, pay rent, etc.

My friend's sister has Down's Syndrome and she's learning to walk again after breaking her ankle at the job that pays her less than subsistence, because that's a thing you can legally do to people with Down's Syndrome.