And see I see her aversion to Hephaestus as being the typical aversion of beautiful people to ugly people.

Regardless of modern ideologies on the topic it's a pretty known thing that a supermodel isn't going to be having sex with a troglodyte. You're not gonna find the most beautiful woman in the known universe in a sexual relationship with a disfigured ugly blacksmith.

Which I mean kinda supports your point of war being more important than crafting. But that would also depend on which Greek city your referring to. Obviously the Spartans would put soldiers above all else, but do you think Athenians would do the same?