Would you work in a workplace in which someone you are attracted to also works if you were in a relationship? (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 7 months ago by AdmiralDoohickey@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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I am in the interview process for a job in a research group and it is going well so far. The only issue is that I was attracted to the person that interviewed me and I am going to be working with if I get hired.

My girlfriend is the most important person in the world for me so I don't want to risk catching feelings for someone else, but I also need to find a job if I am to rent a place to finally live with her.

What would you do in my case? Would you stop the interview process and try to find a job elsewhere or would you go for it and trust that you would do the right thing?

This question might sound deranged to you, but I have the full autism/ADHD/OCD combo so I am very out of touch with how the average person thinks.

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[-] nephs@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I think you have to learn how to do the right thing, and that looks like a great exercise in understanding different forms of relationships with people. It's clear what's in and out of bounds, given the professional context, and your personal relationships.

I don't think there's too much to be afraid of, and being aware of your weaknesses gives you an edge to go in there in relative safety.

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